So I am a little insecure, which is stupid, my live in boyfriend makes me feel wonderful, but a few months ago, I know that he was having doubts about me, so I started out teasing, and just let my acid fingers make a snotty comment while we were chatting. I am not sure why I do this. We have been doing great, reconnecting, honestly I've been feeling more loved over the last few days than ever, he's been perfect, I've been working on controlling my inner *****, but it just slips up every now and again. Anyway have any tips? Maybe I should just always pause before saying anything. I was trying to be funny, and really just made an *** out of myself... I mean I feel like a real jerk right now.
signed,
Foot Permanently Stuck in Mouth
2007-07-02 10:52:41 · 6 answers · asked by Lost and Confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have this problem too. I am snarky by nature. What I do to avoid being snarky to my husband is, I remind myself how much I love him and how much it would hurt me if he were making snarky comments at me, and how much it devastates me when I hurt him. Unfortunately, you're going to slip up every now and then - I do, too - but all you can do when that happens is apologize and try to not let it happen again.
2007-07-02 13:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Amara LeReigne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be better to be thought of as a fool, than to open your mouth and prove yourself as one. stop and think before you speak. many people have broken up over ignorant things that have been said.if you can't control yourself, then maybe you need to get out of the relationship until you work out your inner demons. good luck and god bless.
2007-07-02 18:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are teasing him and you really don't know it. Maybe you want a reaction from him. Maybe you are playing the part of the bratty little girl and you are looking to the boyfriend to tame the brat.
2007-07-02 18:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect and being respectful is important to maintaining a healthy relationship. You may need to get some personal counseling and zip your lip if you can't say something nice. No one deserves to be spoken to in that way.
2007-07-02 18:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you quit making snotty comments?
There's only one proven way - you have to grow up.
2007-07-02 17:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think before you open your mouth.....think how it will sound to him before you say it.
2007-07-02 17:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋