Good news, well me and my bf got back together and yes I am 19 wks pregnant with twins (we already have 2 kids). My bf doesn't want a lot of people only coming to the baby shower for fun - can we put a $ amount minimum on the invitations?
Like last time my cousin came with only 3 things from the Family Dollar store! But she ate a lot of food.
2007-07-02 10:51:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Why don't you just skip the shower and send bills? I pity the children born to such a couple.
2007-07-02 11:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Generally baby showers are given by a family member or close friend for the mom-to-be and usually only for first babies. The purpose of a baby shower is to share in the excitement of preparing for the arrival of a new baby. While the gifts are a nice part of it, that is NOT the main reason for having a baby shower. If these are your 3rd & 4th children, you really don't need a baby shower, especially if you are more concerned about how much people spend instead of being happy about the people who want to come and share in your joy. You don't know the personal finances of anyone despite how things may appear. Definetely do NOT put a minimum requirement on an invitation. That is rude and tacky.
2007-07-02 18:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your pregnancy!
To answer your question, though, that would be tacky and rude. Honestly, even if I knew the mother well, I may pass on the shower if I was told that I needed to spend a certain amount of money.
I don't think that anyone would be offended by you mentioning where you are registered for gifts, but don't expect everyone to use the registry. You may want to include a few cheaper items that you can use (diapers, wipes, pacifiers, socks), though, since some people want to buy something useful but can't afford to buy a car seat or crib.
Your guests may have already given you gifts for your first two children, and they are not obligated to buy you anything at all. Why not just appreciate the fact that your family wants to celebrate with you the joy of your new additions? If they bring gifts (handmade, from Family Dollar, or from Saks Fifth Avenue), you should be gracious and appreciative.
If you are truly concerned about how much food everyone eats, why not make it a pitch-in? Everyone contributes a dish, so they offset what they eat.
Good luck with your shower and your children.
2007-07-02 18:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by g-questions 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I always overbuy for showers...it's just how I am. I can't help myself. But, if I ever got an invite telling me to spend a certian amount, I'd be so offended that I wouldn't attend or send a gift. It's rude, don't do it. Some people come to celebrate your baby & pregnancy & cannot afford much. Personally, I much rather have people there than a certain value in gifts. I feel safe in saying not many people will attend your shower if you do this, close family & friends or not. Rude is rude. Instead, register for what you need. Not just expensive items of course, but even the little things you need. I've seen things as cheap as 99 cent bibs before listed. At least then if someone can only spend a few dollars, it will be on things you need.
2007-07-02 17:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by layla983 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Lol, mabye your cousin was having some problems she did not want you to know about, this is not supposed to be a time to get gifts its a time to celbrate you bringing a life into this world.
If you need clothes or something ask people to give you gift cards for a certain store (but then again that might be a little much).
All I know is that if someone said that I had to pay a minimum amount to go to a a baby shower or wedding or something, I would not go (unless it was a sister, brother something).I might as well go to the club :P
2007-07-02 18:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by fred 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No that's in extreme poor taste, if you don't want her there then don't invite her. Have a registry and put it's location on the invitations, but with 2 kids already you should only have the essentials on there as the baby shower is to celebrate the babies impending arrival, not just to get free stuff. The fact that she brought something cheap may be a sign that she didn't have much money to spare. Good Luck and God Bless your babies.
2007-07-02 17:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by tylw85 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I think that would be rude. I am not saying that doing what your cousin did was not rude but you don't want to be like her. The reason to have showers is get gifts but it is also a way to invite people close to you to celebrate. And I don't know your cousin but maybe at that time she was having money problems. I know I am right now and if I was invited to a baby shower I wouldn't be able to afford a gift.
2007-07-02 17:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you invited me and that was on the invitations I either 1.) wouldn't go. OR 2.) Come with something really cheap
Doing that just seams rude there coming with a gift who are you to tell them how much of THEIR money there allowed to spend on YOUR kids
If some one came to my baby shower with nothing it would be fine with me I can take care of whatever I don't get, and if they bring a gift that is ok too and I would thank everyone for coming and for the gifts as well
2007-07-02 18:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by ?????? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont mean this in a rude way, but I think baby showers are tacky and outdated.
If your friends want to buy you a baby present, they will.
My friend recently lost her baby full term, and had already heaps of received presents for it.
I personally believe that you should not get presents unless there is actually a baby. I know that sounds cold hearted. I do actually spoil my friends and their babies.
Your friends should buy you something for you while pregnant such as body butter, maternity wear, but on their own terms, not because you have invited them to.
Hope this finds you well and does not offend you.
Good luck with your pregnancy!
Twins eh?! That should be fun!!!
2007-07-02 18:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be kinda rude.
I would suggest maybe putting things you need on them in a creative way. Like diapers, those always come in handy. Like little things you need around the house. That way people that can't afford to buy an expensive gift can at least get you things you will need.
2007-07-02 17:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by melanie t 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Register with a store like JC Penney, Sears, or even Wal-Mart, and note that you're registered on the invitation and please choose a gift from the registry because these are the things you'll really need and appreciate the most.
2007-07-02 17:56:02 · answer #11 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋