my sister in law is cheating on my brother, what should i do ?

Question

ok..my brother and my sister in law have been married for about 3 years..i found out about my sister in law cheating on my brother about 3 months ago through their msn chats...it shook my world because i thought she was a simple innocent girl but i was wrong..i told my brother, but he did not believe it at all, and my sister in law's sister took the blame on her...i caught her 2nd time as well, through facebook msgs which werent so bad, but he still didnt believe me...now ive found more proof..what should i do ? im afraid my brother might hurt himself, and that when my parents find out they will have health problems..since my dad has already had a heart attack mainly because of stress and tension..please help..

Answer 1

you did the right thing by telling him the first time. now its time to sit back and let him learn on his own. when he comes around just be there for him without the i told you so's

Answer 2

Let It Go. I know this was not the answer you were looking for and probably sounds wrong, but it sounds like your brother is totally hooked on this girl and your parents are already way stressed out. There's no point in stirring up more trouble then necessary, especially since it mite not evn get you anywhere.

Maybe one day, your sister in law will get a taste of something called karma.

Answer 3

i know how you feel. I had the same thing happen a while ago. But instead of a sis taking the blame she put the blame on everyone else. The only way i can get her cought for her actions was making a letter and sending it to my uncle who was being cheated on by his wife. it had no return address but also had printed out confo's that she had had. a copy of her phone bill that should the number of whom she was cheating with. I had also given him ways to find out for him self that she was cheating. It worked and in the end they still stayed together because it was not something were he had to defend her infront of anyone because he didnt know who sent it. so he confronted her him self and made it sound to her as if he found out on his own.

Answer 4

It sounds like your brother is in denial. If you've already tried to show him twice that he is being cheated on, you've planted the seed. You can continue to share evidence, but be ware that it may drive a wedge between the two you.

The thing is, if the relationship is sexual, he needs to think about STDs etc. But still, if he is in denial about it all, short of you having actual proof (having seen them in an intimate situation, etc) he may not believe you.

When he is ready to face the truth, he will and that is when he'll need your support.

Answer 5

I think you have given your brother fair warning. Now drop out of the entire scene. Stop checking on her and let everything take it's course.
You will need to stay calm & neutrual. Beause if it hits the fan you will at least not be surprised.
They (your fam) will need your strength & support.
Good luck

Answer 6

Its your brother, dude.... you owe it to him to keep showing him the evidence that he is getting cheated on, even if he doesn't believe it or won't stop being cuckolded long enough to see what's going on.

I'd be causual about it... wouldn't run in all breathless, screaming about what she's done... I'd just present the evidence and probably end by saying "If it were me, I'd want to know" and walk away.

Answer 7

maybe you should keep your nose in your own business before your brother tells you to keep out. if shes listed places...he knows and is ok with it ,most likely.she probably spent a few years chasing him all over the place before he told her to handle her urges that way. if youi nterfere its just going to make it more difficult for him soplz try not to be so nosy

Answer 8

i had a similar situation happen to me and my brother.and really u need to mind your own business.let him find out for himself.if u keep telling him things all hes gonna do is get mad at you.trust me let him find out for himself.its better that way.

Answer 9

James, you did all you could by warning your brother. This is part where you back off.

Answer 10

oh my god... that's sound really crazy! i think u should tell ur brother better than nothing, its better tell him... u can tell him that she's no good for him and he can find other better girl..if u still afraid to tell him then you should talk to that your ***** in law.... tell her that! or tell your parents... you try tell them or its will be worst in later! better do it now..trust me....