Iwas looking at a car passing by and just because there was a woman in the passenger seat i was accused of ogling. I could tell her the type of rims, custom color, and model of the car , she didnt even know the type and she knows cars , but she could tell me everything 'I' noticed about the passenger. So who was looking at the car and who was really looking at the passenger? And with all that info why does she feel she's correct?
2007-07-02 10:06:37 · 17 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do not keep trying to prove her wrong.she will just get madder at you .i have acuse my husband the same.that was when we were first married,i don,t do that anymore.she will get better.Good Luck LOL
2007-07-02 10:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't think you'd admit if you were ogling, so of course she feels correct. She is the one with the issue obviously, so tell her that you liked the car. Acknowledge that there was a girl in the car, but you don't need to ogle other women because you have her. Don't deny seeing a woman, then you won't be believed at all. Let her know that if you did glance at a woman longer than you should've, you'd apologize or acknowledge what you did, but in this instance you didn't and you don't appreciate that she is accusing you of something you didn't do. The next time you see an attractive woman, let your girl know that you noticed her.(if she can handle that) If this is an ongoing problem, it's the girl's self-esteem that is the issue and it will not get any better, but instead will ruin your relationship with her if she continues to accuse you of things like that unjustly.
Secondly, always make sure to let the girl you love know how much you love her and how beautiful she is. She deserves to know and the more confident she is in your relationship, the less likely she'll be to be concerned with you ogling another woman, whether you truly were or not. Good Luck!
2007-07-02 17:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by lys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is insecure. How frustrating that must be. If I were you, I'd spend some time reassuring my wife that she is beautiful and has nothing to worry about. If the behavior persists (her accusing you of oogling), then suggest therapy. She obviously has poor self esteem or feels otherwise uncertain about your relationship. If you've truly given her no reason to feel that way, then she needs to work it out for herself.
In the meantime, don't feel as though you owe her an explanation. If she accuses you of oogling women, ask HER some questions.
Wife - "Stop looking at other women!"
You - "Why do you think that?" or "What did I do that would make you think that?"
Wife - "You were looking at her, I saw you!"
You - "So if I look in the general direction of another woman, it means I want her, that I no longer love you, that I don't find you attractive?"
I'd be interested how your wife would respond when she's forced to consider how utterly ridiculous her theory sounds when thrown back at her.
Good luck!
2007-07-02 17:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Courtney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...I don't know you or your wife.
But you know how often men ogle at women...
just because this one time she was wrong, are you often seeking out eye candy?
I have to play devil's advocate here, because too many men STARE.
Women may notice, but they certainly don't stare, nor do they do a 180 degrees on the street, nor do they look like they just went brain dead and get that goofy look on their face.
You know what I am talking about, and you know if you are guilty of staring sometimes. Men think that their partner doesn't know when they are checking out the meat, and believe me, we do know.
Noticing ONCE is ok, but going back for seconds...a big NO NO.
It's a respect issue for one. Secondly, if you are looking at other women while with your wife, it is insulting to her, like she just disappeared, or that she is so unimportant that you can look anyway, and who cares what she thinks or feels.
I don't believe women are just insecure. I've been in secure relationships, and was secure for a reason. I've been in an insecure relationship too, and there was a reason then too!
So...fess up...are you staring sometimes? Do you watch too much porn? Do you suggest a threesome with another woman? Do you do suspicious things, in otherwords, that signal to her that you aren't loyal in your head?
If you're innocent, great...then brush it off and simply ignore it. You've said that you were innocent, and so you are done with the issue.
But if you have any of these ogling traits, then you already know that you are guilty.
One of my long-term relationship partner's never ogled other women. Another one made sure that he never missed a piece of eye candy ever, even if it meant stumbling on the sidewalk and breaking his leg.
2007-07-02 17:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude......... arguing with a woman about looking at other women is like wrestling with a pig. About 5 minutes into it you realize that all you are is dirty and the pig sorta likes it.
Not that I'm calling women.. or your woman.. a pig!
Its just that this is an arguement that you can't win. You might try saying "Geez, honey, this sounds like a line, but I really only have eyes for you" and then leave it at that. You can't win that arguement... but the more you try and engage her IN the arguement, the more convinced she'll be that you are hiding something.
You have my sympathy, brother.........
2007-07-02 17:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well why shouldn't you look? I'm sure your wife notices if a good looking man walks past her in the street. Maybe you should just sit in the house all day or wear blinkers when you go out if that would make her more secure.
2007-07-02 17:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by colgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HAAAAAAAAA LMFAOOOOO
wow about time a man says something---i was the same way with my BF---we were in the plaza the other day and there was some cheer squad doing all these leg lifts and crap--he stopped for a second and i turned to see what he was looking at and some girl had her leg lifted over her head i laughed and smacked his arm and he started laughing too---i guess im different---i think its human nature for a heterosexual man to observe the opposite sex---you ladies might think it's a bad answer i think it's completely healthy.....good luck...
2007-07-02 17:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because she's feeling insecure. Look at her more...make sure she sees that you're "ogling" over her, and feeling insecure and assumeing that you're looking at a woman won't be as present as it once was.
2007-07-02 17:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by d_marie_n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well get use to it no matter the age they always think your looking and most guys do. sounds like your wife is insecure in your relationship. well all guys like to look at nice things and jealousy can ruin a good relationship so you have to always keep her informed she is #1 for you. what happens when y'all go to the beach. that's what everyone is doing at the beach or pool looking at the hot bodies. and if you don't something is wrong.,
2007-07-02 17:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't fight over very trivial matters. Only kids do that. Tell your wife to save the confrontation about more important issues in your marriage.
2007-07-02 17:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by Belen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is so insecure that it bothers her that you LOOK at other women, whether you are or are not does not matter. She needs a reality check. This will not be your last argument about this. Sorry for ya.
2007-07-02 17:13:38 · answer #11 · answered by Elizabeth B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋