why do we stop looking our best for your b/f g/f husbands wifes?

Question

i really hate it when i meet someone and then later on they just let themselfs go. get fat, stop dressing sexy!!!

i want to look the best for my girl and i try to make her happy, and she does the same for me but i see so many couples just stop trying to be the best for there loved one

Answer 1

I dunno, but I think it's gross too! Maybe a lack of healthy self-respect? Depends on the people too. Some people it just doesn't bother.

Answer 2

There could be a lot of reasons...But it's probably due to a stressed lifestyle. When they were first dating it was new to them, exciting. After awhile, once they've been together for some time the newness wears off and the reality of 'life' sets in. If there's kids that just adds to it. They have to work, pay bills, and do all the normal everyday things and they begin to take each other for granted. They probably don't spend the same amount of time together as they used to. Where once they 'took the time' to be with one another, they now are too busy having to get this done or that and it's all at the expense of time together. In order for a marriage to work, it's takes that, 'work'...You have to not only take the time but make the time. My wife and I have seven children. Ever since we've met practically we've always matched as far as colors go when we get dressed. We often hear comments about it, but they are always good. It's just our way of making each day special. On the very rare occasion someone catches us not matching, maybe because one has come home from work and showered and changed, we hear about it...It's corny I know, but, it's fun too, it's our little way of paying attention to one another, among others...

My wife always takes the time to look her best, trust me, it don't take much, she's lovely both inside and out, but she still fixes herself up, even if we're going to be working in the yard all day, she will fix her hair and make it to where I spend more time looking at her than working...I do what I can to look good for her as well, but I can only do so much, I'm a guy!

Answer 3

I'm sure it's a matter of comfort and not a decision to "let themselfs go." At some point the focus usually changes, and growing together as people overrides what your exterior physical appearance is. Being beautiful for your partner is much more than what you look like.

Answer 4

We all fall into a comfort zone where we feel like our spouse will love us regardless. Of coure, it's not always that way. I feel that if I don't keep myself up to the standards I was at when we first got together...then maybe I was doing a little false advertising. LOL Now that doesn't mean I don't walk around the house with no makeup on and hair a mess at times...but when we go in public together I want him to still feel like he's proud to be with me, not just be there because he loves me. We all want spouse's that we feel proud to be with.
And the weight gain..sometimes that happens without either party even realizing it. The important part is to work on it..if if bothers the both of you...

Answer 5

The only thing I have changed since getting married is that at his request I almost never wear makeup, and to tell the truth my skin has never looked better. I also did get fat for about 13 months but for 9 of those I was pregnant so I am not counting that.

Answer 6

Who says we stop trying to look our best? I don't get all dolled up everyday, but I didn't do that before I married either. Although my husband & I have both gained weight since our marriage, it doesn't mean we don't try to look our best. Beside we married each other for reasons other than our looks. And it's a fact of life, as you age you will gain some weight. But I haven't stopped trying to be attractive to my husband. He still tells me I'm sexy, as I do him. Good luck. 2D

Answer 7

Because a lot of people get to comfortable and feel once they have the person they don't have to impress them any more....however I believe if a relationship are to last then the things you did to make the person fall in love with you should remain with you forever.

Answer 8

no longer married .. i think new dating .. terrific acquaintances now fanatics ! a million. he's often there for me while i choose him ! 2. he's so humorous - he could make me chortle every time ! 3. He makes me sense so reliable approximately myself - like no different ! 4. We carry out the terrific in one yet another - i've got in no way been happier ! 5. The intercourse has been the terrific .. yet that's in simple terms the frosting on the cake !

Answer 9

Why? Because people have already snared the person they want, so they feel they don't have to try any more. It's stupid, but unfortunately that's how it is with a lot of people. And then they wonder why their boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever is upset with them and starts looking at other people.

Answer 10

People begin to feel safe with the person they are with and secure enough that they no longer feel it nessecary to keep up their appearance. It's frustrating though. I mean, it's nice that someone feels that secure in their relationship, but come on!...that doesn't they have to stop caring all together about looking nice...I know what you mean!!!

Answer 11

You get comfortable. A lot of people feel I have them so why put myself out like that anymore. They are not going anywhere.