I love my girlfriend very much but I really dont see why monogamy is such a big deal. I think sex is not as sacred as most people make it out to be, maybe I am just being selfish and pig headed I am not sure???
2007-07-02 09:43:46 · 7 answers · asked by Confused Guy 1031 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm completely in love with my husband but I still find myself seriously attracted to other men.. My husband also has crushes and attractions to other women.. While nothing has ever happened, if our source of attraction expressed interest, I don't think we would have stop ourselves..
when I was younger I thought the idea of an open marraige was odd and that it meant that you didn't trully love your partner.. but I realize now that love and respect and life goals have nothing to do with sex.. it's hard to explain.
did any of that make sense?
2007-07-02 09:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by Judi 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As you state, some people feel sex is a big deal and others feel it in the same catagory as a good workout.
My feeling is as long as both people are honest with each other from the begining there should be no issues. If feelings begin to change on one direction or the other, it is the job of that partner to bring it to the others attention.
2007-07-02 10:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really, truly love this person you will be monogamous. Three good reasons:
1. Jealousy will tear your relationship apart.
2. If you are not monogamous, then SHE won't be monogamous. Wanna be a daddy to someone else's kid?
3. Diseases. If you truly love someone, you would not participate in activities that could cause them to contract a deadly disease. That is insensitive and stupid.
But you don't really love this person... at least, not as much as you love yourself. So it really doesn't matter.
2007-07-02 09:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you do in depth research on human history back to the beginning of time, you will find that the human race was not designed to be monogamous.
2007-07-02 09:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Love is also trust and devotion and not taking a chance to spread disease.
So whatever way you choose.
You can be in love with more than one person.but you would find it best to be with someone who feels the same way about it as you do.
2007-07-02 09:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by skyz 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you're being selfish and pigheaded.
2007-07-02 09:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sydney 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2007-07-02 09:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋