ok im pregnant and young really young?

Question

im 14 and about 8 weeks the dad is a loser and abortion is not an option i have 2 tell my mom and dont know how and i need cheap but good stuff 4 the baby so plzzzzz help

Answer 1

okay
i was there a few months ago too
it is soo not easy to tell your parents
my parents caught me when i was talking about it with a friend
my best bet for you is to have a friend there to make you feel safer and more comfortable.
email me at [e-mail] and i will help you more
and as for the cheap but good stuff for the baby, go to places like goodwill for the clothes, bibs, blankets, etc. and go to kmart for bottles, diapers, wipes, equipment, etc.
email me
i will help

Answer 2

well, i have a few options for you, the first one though, i suggets not. here goes:
1- wait a couple more months, let her find out on her own, she'll see it, trust me!
2- go to your mom ALONE! with your father there, you never know what's going to happen. i say sit her down, and tell her what happened, but the first hing you do is say something like, let me explain, please hear my side first, keep your voice down...etc...then, you need to explain to her your plan, if you don't have one, make one! right away, tell her what you think is right and wrong, get on her good side. tell her this quote: "A baby is the sign that God thinks that the world should go on."-Ghandi. Tell her that everything is happening for a reason and that God has a plan for you, that everything will be fine in the end. That the father is a loser and that you don't want him to have a part in this all, that he is a bad influence from the get go, but that you were foolish to even , well, you know. you two should deff talk it over and be very calm about it because if not, well, you can fill in the rest.
3- do the disappearing act and "well, my daughter is spending time with some friends", you know the story.

as far as baby clothes and such goes, your mom probably still has some stuff left over from you and your siblings, that should ddo and work out for you just fine. I personally, am your age, and i SO can'timagine going throuhg this, but #2 is what i would do. i wish you the best of luck and if you need any kind of more support, just give me an e-mail. stay calm and clear minded and open to anything, you'll get through this, girl, you can do it! the bets of luck to you!

Answer 3

OK, my sister had a baby at 16 (shes 22 now with a 6 year old). You should tell your mother so that she can help you. This is going to be a very difficult thing your about to do. Adoption is an option and a very good one, seeing as you have to go to high school. You can even get an arrangement where you can get the child back when you are older and wiser. Abortion is never an option that I agree. Don't worry about the clothing and stuff yet, that will come i time. Right now worry about your health and that of the life you carrying, If all else fails I'll adopt the baby, I can't have kids.

Answer 4

Wow, you have gotten A TON of advice already. I was a pregnant teen once too. I was 17 when I got pg and now I am 27. I thank God that I never considered abortion. I cannot imagine that my daughter would not exist because I couldn't face up to what I had done. I have no clue what your mom will do but for the sake of the baby I would tell her soon. I waited almost 4 months to tell anybody and that put my baby at risk because I didn't get any prenatal care for those months. Do not listen to those people who are giving you crap. I garuntee they have made mistakes in their life and done things wrong but what you do NOW is what matters. If you cannot raise the baby, consider adoption. There are so many couples out there who cannot have children and would be able to love and support them. My husband and I cannot conceive and we are now those people, which is so weird that I was once on the other side (but decided to keep her, with my parents help.) Anyway, pray and try to make the best decisions for you and the baby. If you view my profile you can e-mail me if you need any more advice from someone who has been there and wished she had someone to talk to back then.

Answer 5

unfortunately this is a case of just sitting down and telling the truth - try to not dance around the issue too much.
I know some people who were very young mothers and happen to be the best mums I ever came across.
A lot of the time when someone is pregnant, young or not, families will pull together and help with purchasing any items.
Many items to can buy from the classifieds in your paper, but remember that there are a few items you should never buy second hand such as baby matteresses and bed covers.

Unfortunately uou may find that there are people out there who are too willing to judge you. Remember to hold your head up high and do your very best by your child.
I wish you all the very best whatever decision you make and hope that your mother and family are supportive.

Good luck!!!

Answer 6

How do you tell your mom? Simply, "Mom... we need to talk." Sit her down one day, hopefully soon, tell her how much you love her and that your sorry it would have to be this way, but you're pregnant. Expect her to be mad and disappointed, but she's your mom and she'll love you anyway and hopefully help you through this. There are many options available. Research your town/city for any young expecting mothers clubs of some sort, or any benefits you can get from the government. Adoption is something a lot of girls like you will look into, but if you really want to keep this baby you got it right: go cheap but make sure it's good quality (like diapers, you don't want crappy diapers). Try second-hand stores (e.g. Value Village) for cribs, clothes and furniture. Try Wal-Mart for baby hygiene necessities.

A lot of people will respond to you and tell you how terrible of a girl you are for having sex unprotected at such a young age, and they will belittle you for it. You'll get this around you in the real world too. But, I think a lot of people need to stop with this. It was a stupid mistake, granted, but it's been done. You're young, you're probably scared, you probably also know that it was a mistake... you don't need anyone else telling you that. The important thing is to stay strong, keep your head up, and love your baby. Good luck to you. God bless.

Answer 7

Oh dear, that is a predicament! I'm sure your mom will not be happy, but you may as well get it over with and tell her what's up. She'll be able to help you. Also, even though baby's dad is a loser, he (and his parents until he is 18) do have a responsibility to help support the baby. If money is tight at home, call social services. There are many programs that offer assistance to pregnant women and babies. One of the best is WIC (Women, Infants and Children), which will help you get the nutritious food you need while you're pregnant and even more, will pay for formula for the baby! If you're sure you want to continue with your pregnancy, get to a doctor ASAP. You want to make sure everything goes well so that you have a healthy baby and have no complications due to your age.

Good luck to you!

Answer 8

Honey, you are going to have to come right out and say it. You may write a letter to your mother if you'd prefer, but I think it would be best to tell her yourself. This will show her that you are grown enough to deal with this, that you don't have to hide behind a letter. This will put her a little more at ease, make her feel better about the future. As far as things for the baby, you should most definitely be able to get onto government assistance for help with food and things like that. Also, I would start shopping now, don't be afraid to check out second hand stores. Babies grow so fast and clothes are so expensive that it just makes better financial sense to pay as little as possible for something the baby will only be able to use for a short time. For now buy things that a boy or girl could use, because you don't know the sex of the baby. Also, you need to file for child support, even if the guy is a loser, he made this baby just as much as you did, your life will change forever, and he shouldn't get away scott free. Even if he doesn't pay anything, you've got to at least file. Many states will not help single mothers unless they file child support. And lastly, if you have any young cousions, siblings, nieces or nephews, start saving their things, so they can be passed down to your baby. Good luck hon. I'll pray for you, and I don't want to push religion on you, but it might be a good time for you to think about asking for help from the almighty. He can help you more than any of us.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry for you. It's going to be a tough 18 years.

First things first is telling your mom. Don't put it off, do it tonight and don't fret over the how. Just make sure it's a time when you can tell her alone if at all possible.

Make up the words and rehearse them like a speech. Something like, "Mom, please, I need to talk to you about something very serious"

Then just tell her. It'll never be easy. Depending on your mother you'll get anger, sadness or disgust. I'd say be prepared for all three.

Don't worry about long term plans for now, just tell her and hopefully she'll help you make the plans.

Don't worry about baby stuff either. It is expensive if you want the whole baby room, but all you really need is a crib and some bedding and clothes. It doesn't have to be expensive at all, and the baby won't know the difference as long as you show it love.

Answer 10

First of all, don't let any talk you into an abortion if that's not an option for you. Adoption is a good option, but if you would like to keep the baby, it's completely ok. Your mom will be shocked, then a little angry, and then she should calm down. My mother-in-law had my husband at 14 and he came out just fine.

As for cheap stuff, check out craigslist.com. Thrift shops will become your best friends.

Answer 11

First of all congrads!!!!!First of all tell your mom it will take a big load off your shoulders.You mom might be really mad at first but shell get over it.Your mom loves you and when she sees those ultra sounds and see the baby for the first time it wont even matter.Dont have an abortion if you dont want to.And there are alot of programs out there that help young mothers.And when you let your mom know im sure shell help you get the help you need!!!!But right now you need your mom