My ex called me up last night wanting me to come over,but I kind of blew her off by saying that I had already made plans to go out.We're still friends,but I just don't feel like being over there all the time.Was I wrong to lie?
2007-07-02 09:19:46 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you lied was because you didnt feel like being with her! And if you feel that way it is fine that you didnt waste your time by going. Even though lying wasn't exactly the right thing to do!!! But you did what you felt, you lied not to hurt her! I completely understand you! But no you didnt do anything wrong, just try not to lie anymore just incase she fnids out, you might end up hurting her!
2007-07-02 09:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest - without being mean about it. Just say that you need more space and while you don't mind spending some time with her, you feel like she's wanting you to come over too much. Set some boundaries. The whole "let's be friends" thing often ends up with game-playing and one or the other person (or both) trying to still be in the others life more than is healthy after a break-up. You broke up - you have to have space and time to get used to not being around that other person. Both of you.
2007-07-02 16:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by Barb B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's never good to lie...i mean she is your EX for a reason... it sounds like you are both trying to be friends though despite the break up, if this is the case then how can you build a friendship if you can not be honest with one another and tell the truth to one another.
If you have to lie, then maybe this friendship thing with your EX isn't going to work out at all. You are suppose to treat her like one of the guys...would you lie to them?
2007-07-02 16:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the worst, your lie was about a 2. Nothing to fret about.
2007-07-02 16:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's easy to see where you're coming from. Personally, I don't think you were wrong to lie about it, but I do think you should be honest next time and just tell her you don't really feel like going over to see her. If you don't, you'll be forced to lie frequently as she gets more desperate to see you. Hopefully she won't take it as a personal insult, and if she doesn't, you've found a way to space out visits and relieve yourself of some guilt.
2007-07-02 16:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Tawny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think so. I think she's either going to be mad at you for lying, or she's going to ask another time until she figures it out and then be furious at being strung along.
You should have just told her the truth, either that you didn't feel like it, or that it's weird what with you all being broken up and that you don't want to hang out there all the time.
The truth is almost always best in my opinion.
2007-07-02 16:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. She might still be into you and wants to hang out with you and stuff to try to rekindle some flames. It seems like you're over her. It is never good to lie, so if this stuff continues, just tell her that you guys spend too much time together! It might hurt her, but its better than her being led on!!!
2007-07-02 16:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by noname 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not at all. This is your ex, not gf or wife...you shouldnt feel bad about not wanting to be over there all the time. Eventhough u both are still friends there could be times where it can be uncomfortable for you and it's understandable. You have your own life now and it's not entirely for her,...she needs to get that and not expect for you to be there all the time
2007-07-02 16:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah and no. lying is always bad but you are also free to do your own thing. Especially if she's your ex. You 2 may be friends but friends don't hang out 24/7. let her know how u feel n be honest.
2007-07-02 16:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by ***Suga lips*** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lying isnt the key because she is going to do it again and then you will have to keep lying but if you nice and calmly explain to her that you want to hang out but just not all of the time then if she doesnt understand when your telling her the truth then thats her problem but if so then it works out good!
2007-07-02 16:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋