do you think someone can cheat only once and say they feel like its the worst mistake they have ever made and if put in that position agian do you think they would not cheat again?
2007-07-02 08:53:20 · 14 answers · asked by chicksmom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, it might have been the person he cheated with the first time, so let's try one more time to be sure...
2007-07-02 09:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by modernneanderthal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very few things in this world are "always" or "never" true, esp with regard to people.
That phrase should actually be "once a cheater, probably a cheater" because although most people who cheat don't do it just once, it's not true that everyone who cheats, cheats again. Some do it once, and that's it...maybe they ended up riddled with guilt or maybe they decided it just wasn't worth what they were risking losing.
2007-07-02 15:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say that it is possible for a person to cheat once & never do it again. People make mistakes & they can learn from the first one. The cheater can realize that it was a mistake that isn't worth repeating & losing the person who means the world to them.
2007-07-03 00:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by foreverhoyt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is possible for them to feel terrible about cheating and never do it again...but there person that they cheated on, it will take awhile to get over and that person might think that the one that has cheated on them has done it again even if you truly hasn't. I've been cheated on and yes i took him back, i believe that he hasnt cheated on since then, but its always in the back of my mind when something goes wrong or when he starts acting a certain way....you can forgive but its had to forget.
2007-07-02 16:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by lisa_7702 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think once a cheater, most likely always a cheater.
The problem is not that he/she cheated on you. In their eyes, the problem was that they got caught.
If they had only cheated once and it was the WORST mistake ever - they wouldn't have done it again, hence you wouldn't have had the chance to find out about it.
Something in their brain tells them its O.K. to do this. They will ALWAYS have a prediliction for it.
2007-07-02 16:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by aa889d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a risk assessment. I would ask the question, can you cope if he does it again? How long will it take for you to regain confidence to trust a man?
The key is this - did he confess his infidelity to you voluntarily or did you simply find out and confront him with the evidence?
If he confessed voluntarily without coercion then you have a hope. But if you accused him and he admitted it then sorry I think he will do it again.
I was approached last week by a woman who told me "no one will know". I replied to her "I will and I have to look my wife in the eyes when I get home". I simply couldn't do it.
I don't trust cheaters and I know two of them and I despise them for the pain they have caused to my friends. Like I said - look how he confessed and make your decision.
2007-07-02 16:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the decision is always up to the person. If one really wants to change they will. So the saying only goes for the ones that don't want to change....
2007-07-02 16:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not always. Some of us are more than capable of learning from past mistakes and not allowing history to repeat itself.
2007-07-02 15:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe people can and do change....maybe it really was the worst mistake and now will always know that the grass isn't always greener.
2007-07-02 15:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by tara b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible as long as they were not in a relationship. A relationship is not a mistake.
2007-07-02 16:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by King H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋