I dont know my friends anymore?

Question

We are approaching an important time at school- we've got GCSEs from next year and it seems they've slipped down. Ive got 5 best friends (really REALLY close) and it seems they would rather go out drinking and making out with guys. I really want to do well these two years because ive got big ambitions for the future(i want to be a doctor) and even though i DO want to go out and have fun i feel abit weird around them because 1. theres always boys there and 2. its with alcohol. im thinking of getting through these two years by really getting my head down and working hard and when i get to college start experimenting with this stuff. I dont know, we're 14 and i feel abit weird doing all that stuff- am i being too babyish? should i grow up?

Answer 1

i had friends like that too, and i failed my gcse's i rekon you should keep doing what you are doing, make time for your friends too though, at the end of the day if they are real friends they will always be there, and save yourself till your ready - please

Answer 2

As you go through life, you and your friends change. You're bound to find that some close friends have developed different interests and you drift apart, but you find new friends who share your interests. Don't be too worried - thats how the world works. You don't have to be enemies just because you're no longer close friends.

You need to achieve a balance between your studying and your social life. I can't tell you what's right for you - but you seem to be finding your own level. Don't worry if it's not the same as what your friends do.

14 is a bit young to dedicate your life to boys and booze. Give it a bit longer. By the time your friends are 18, they'll probably have been put off both for life.

Answer 3

Dude if you wanna be a doctor I suggest you get your head down and carry on working.
Of course you need friends but at GCSE you always make new ones cos you all choose different subjects and you may not see much of your old friends.
You're not being babyish your being ambitious which you need to be if you want to be a doctor, and I should know because I once had a dream of being a doctor, but I dossed around at school and got crappy grades.

Work now play later.
Play now, pay later

Answer 4

You sound like a very smart girl! You are not being a "baby", you are being intelligent about your future. I admire you for not blindly following your friends into drinking and boys.

Years from now, you will be the Dr. that you want to be... You can't get to that goal through a bottle of alcohol, or by making out with boys.

Work hard and wait for college to have your experimental times, like you want.

You will never be sorry that you followed your dreams.

Answer 5

You have answered this yourself but the wrong way around. You are not being babyish, quite the opposite, you are being mature, your friends are being childish by getting heavily involved in drink and boys and not studying they are having the fun but not taking responsibility for their studies. Stay friendly with them but keep up with your studies. That way if you succeed as a doctor you will be in a better position to treat them when they are older and entering hospital with drink related illnesses!

Answer 6

I think it's great you want to be a doctor, You are heading down the right path by not wanting to be involved with alcohol and boys. If these 5 people are really your best friends they will respect your decision and not pressure you into doing thing your not ready to do. Your are not being babyish at all, your making right decisions and being very mature for your age keep it up. and one day you will be a great doctor.:)

Answer 7

you sound like you are the most grown up of the group , do what you know what is right and study you have all your life to party when you are older and exams are finished , sometimes you can grow out of friendships so still pal with them but try and make friends with other people as well that have the same aims as yourself, there are enough airheads around so best of luck to you in the future, its good that you have an ambition ,god bless

Answer 8

You are growing up. Studying for your exams to get a good job is important, but it's always good to have fun, too. You should maybe invite your friends to go to the mall with you, the movies.. etc.. You can get into serious trouble drinking! Plus, their guy friends probablly won't want to hangout at the mall and stuff...

Answer 9

You should do whats right for you, and consider getting new friends that have ambitions and a future like you will if you stay on course and dont go down the same road as your friends are.

Answer 10

It sounds to me, like you have a good head on your shoulders and a high level of maturity for a person of your age. . The goal you have set is certainly an admirable one. You can stick to your guns on your moral values, and still keep your really good freinds.. You just have to let them know that you don't want to participate in the alcohol, and the heavy making out with the guys.. If you just want to hang with your freinds you might try making plans with them, that are just "girl things" which wouldn't be conducive to having guys around, or alcohol. PJ parties, going to the mall, an all girls makeover party, catching a movie, cooking party, or campout, can be a lot of fun.. I wouldn't at this point, condemn my freinds, or try to lecture them, I would just let them know I respect their decisions, although, I might not want to participate in all the things they do, or condone there actions..Real freinds will accept this, without problem. Most of all BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.. and all will be fine.

Answer 11

Your just doing what your heart tells you to do.Its good to have ambitions and it seems your more conservative then your friends.Do what you want to do because you want to not because everyone else is.There is always time for fun and you can sure go ahead and have it even without alcohol and guys.There is always time for education too but you dont have to do it by yourself maybe a study group you can find.