I know I am only 16 and he is 18 but I think about marrying my guy every day that is how much I love him...I dont want to get married right now but after college, I just want him to be the one I spend the rest of my life with...I worry about what he is going to do with his life because he has always wanted to be a Marine..I think about marriage even though I know it is not a good time...Is that so bad...
2007-07-02 08:28:26 · 24 answers · asked by ~Lost N' Love~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I don't think it's bad to think about it as long as you understand it should only be a daydream and something fun to think about. You know you're way too young to make a commitment of that magnitude right now. You don't know it now but believe me, people change soooo much as they experience new things. That's just life....the more experiences you go through, the more you learn about yourself and who you are. That definition of who you are and what you want will be constantly changing until you're around 30 and have a more stable identity. I'm sure your basic values won't change though. If it really is true love, then there's no problem with waiting! Afterall, you have the rest of your life to spend together. Enjoy NOW - enjoy being young and not having the problems some adults do. I know you're scared of him becoming a Marine but there are worse things. You definitely have to be strong to be a military girlfriend or wife. Enjoy the r'ship you have now and let the future worry about itself.
2007-07-02 08:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage at 16 is insane. You need to worry about finishing High School first. Your a girl & girls are really emotional & fall in love very easily, that's why you feel the way you do. And, why would you worry about what he's going to do with his life after he's already said he wants to be a Marine? That's not a bad thing at all. That's a career. You should support his decision. You make it seem like being a Marine is a bad thing. Anyway, don't get your hopes up high, he may not feel the same about you as far as marriage, wanting to be married to you or even thinking about it at his age. Guys don't really think about marriage this early. He's better off focusing on his career decision & his future as a Marine rather than to marry someone who is indeed underage & ILLEGAL. You are 16 & he is 18. It is illegal for him to be with you. If you guys get caught & someone calls the cops. He will be arrested. How's that for a career change? He will have a criminal background because of you. That will ruin his chances of being a Marine. My best advice to you is to find a guy who is the same age as you & stop thinking about marriage at 16.
2007-07-02 08:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not bad but just wait on marriage until you both are ready for that step you both have a big life ahead and what you are feeling today may change like the wind. You are very young and need to be enjoying the young years. If your parents don't think that there is anything wrong with you dating this guy then you should make sure that you don't have kids are things like that until you have marriage and been together long enough to know that this is the person that you will spend the rest of your life with.
2016-05-21 03:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking about marriage isn't a bad thing, but at your age I wouldn't recommend actually doing it yet. If your love lasts through college, though, that would be wonderful. If you both feel the same way then, get married with my blessings! If one or both of you change your minds by then, well, then it wasn't meant to be.
Dreams are good, but I think you're wise to recognize that finishing your education is important.
Oh, and at sixteen I dreamed about getting married too...I just wound up marrying someone else a lot later. As long as the dreams aren't distracting you from living your life now, they're absolutely normal and nothing to be worried about.
2007-07-02 08:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it just depends on what kind of person you are....If you are more of the type of person and him also who values being in a longterm relationship more than being single than it will be ok, but remember when you are in a relationship even if it's a very good one there will be times you wish you were single and can do whatever you want without consequences,but it's vise versa sometimes when you are single because it can be lonely and sometimes you will wish you had someone always.You guys need to talk alot about it and figure out which side sounds more like you and him.When you make a commitment to someone it needs to be returned just as much as you give or it will not work out.Good luck!
2007-07-02 08:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by Red 7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking about it is not so bad. You are in love, and there is nothing wrong with that. Doing it would be a really, really bad idea, though. Sounds to me like you have a sensible plan. Wait until after college. If he is the man for you, he'll be right there waiting for you. If not, then he was not marriage material anyway. Good luck!
2007-07-02 08:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think positive, you are young and have your whole life ahead of you, marriage is certainly not somthing you should get into when you are in your teens! your are inexperience no 2 ways about it. A firm foundation is the key to a marriage success, think about it would you want to deprive yourself of a good career and opportunites, you can make your life much better than to share your life with someone at a young age, have to work, have to help in everything, possible take care of kids, going through a series of ups and downs, "great recipe for depression"... becareful about your decisions, at your age certainly what you want to become should be your key focus, and not a housewife, leave marriage for later!
2007-07-02 08:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ron Trump 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, all of us girls have spent the better part of our youth dreaming about our wedding day. There is nothing wrong with looking forward to that day especially with the guy we love. I just hope you wait til you are mature enough to understand the responsibilities that go along with marriage. Look at the mess some of the people's lives are in here because they obviously weren't ready for the commitment that goes along with exchanging those vows. Enjoy being young & inlove.
2007-07-02 17:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by foreverhoyt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think you know what you want now concerning marriage...that is admirable. but the sad truth is...if you marry him now or at 18...the chances of your marriage failing is very high...check the stats. you have so much to learn and experience in life...marriage is one of the learning experiences...we learn from our mistakes. it will be a mistake for you to marry so young. then you might make the biggest mistake of having his child at a young age. DO NOT DO THAT! don't learn the hard way.
2007-07-02 08:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by booooooooooooby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not bad, don't worry! I'm sure a lot of girls your age do it when they have found the perfect person for them!! I think it's sweet how you love him and think about marrying him all the time! Good luck with your boy friend in the future!
2007-07-02 08:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by Drew :] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋