I wanted us to try new things so I suggested it, but the pain was too much, he enjoyed it (he enjoyed it so much he kept doing it even though I was crying).
I still wanna give it another try because he likes it, I need advice on how to do it without the terrible pain.
Also, is bleeding after having anal sex normal?
2007-07-02 07:28:18 · 24 answers · asked by Lizzyyyy 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
First - anatomy. At the lower end of the bowel, there are two distinct circular bands of muscles, sphincters, one is located about an 1 ½" above the other. These clamp down tight to prevent the passage of feces or gas. The mucous membrane lining of the rectum is not as heavy as the lining of the vagina, so it can tear quite easily and it does not heal as quickly as the vagina. Because feces, loaded with bacteria, are passing by, any tear is vulnerable to infection.
The vigorous thrusting that may occur during anal intercourse can tear the mucous membrane. This can develop into an anal abscess that can become infected - more about that in a moment. Also, if your partner has any of the sexually transmitted infections (STI's), then you could get infected through the tear. So we are talking about gonorrhea (treatable); venereal warts (treatable if external, difficult if up in the rectum); syphilis (treatable); herpes (treatment, no cure); yeast infection (treatable); and HIV and AIDS (treatment but no cure.) You do not want any of these STI's.
Preferably, you're in a long-term, committed relationship, infection free, and practising SAFER SEX.
But wait, there's more bad news. A “fissure” is a tear up in the rectum can develop into a crack, and become infected.
It can gradually extend out through the wall of the bowel and form a channel across, through and into a nearby organ. That's called a "fistula", and it would allow feces to flow from the rectum into the vagina and out.
Repairing tears, fissures and fistulas is delicate surgery and recovery can be long and painful.
Some doctors will tell you that hemorrhoids (piles) could result from vigorous anal sex, and although I have no medical research, I have heard people say that the rectum "gets sloppy", stretched. I am dubious - if this was true, why doesn't it get sloppy with regular bowel movements? With no definitive research, you do the math.
The best prevention is "don't go there". But if you do decide to try it, you and your partner must talk about it beforehand and agree on these points:
1. Your partner must be very, very gentle, absolutely no forced penetration and no vigorous thrusting.
2. You must use lots and lots of good lubrication, (anal lube, not saliva).
3. Your partner must use a condom…all the time, every time.
4. Your partner must respect "stop". If you say ouch, or it hurts, or No or quit… they must stop immediately.
5. It must be understood, if you do not want to have anal sex again, there will be no pressure, no threats and no pleading. NO means NO.
6. Use a well-lubricated condom without spermicide, either on the sex toy or his penis. Spermicide can irritate the rectum.
7. Never shift from anal sex back to vaginal sex without changing condoms. Feces can end up in the vagina and cause infections. And please wash your hands with soap and water after handling the dirty condom or you could still spread infectious material.
Hope this helps!
2007-07-05 19:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Who Likes Anal Sex
2017-01-02 09:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by commendatore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Boyfriend Likes Anal
2016-11-08 02:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by snedden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have anal sex again until: 1. you are completely healed and 2. you really, really want to.
You have to take care of you because it's obvious he doesn't care if your insides get all torn up. Anal is a slow process, you have to control the depth and speed of insertion, NOT HIM!
Yes you can bleed even if this is done correctly. Yes there will be some pain even if all precautions are taken. After the first time or two the pain subsides and intense pleasure takes it's place.
Tips:
Don't go in and out. After you and his condom sheathed penis have been lubed insert slowly but keep going, do not pull out and reenter. This is how you injure yourself. It might take 15 mins or more of slow penetration until he's all the way in. You do not want to rush this. When you're comfortable you move you body to thrust, he shouldn't move until he gets a clear signal from you that your're ready.
The most comfortable positon to start with is side by side (spooning)
2007-07-05 14:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Equinoxical ™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go slow. He must wear a condom. You must lubricate. You must have an enema. The first time, you should use a thin Pyrex dildo. He should work up each time. He should move to bigger sizes before putting his penis in after few weeks.
You really should be married if you are doing this stuff. If this is done gradually, the bleeding should be minimal.
If you are too quick at this, you will find that passing stools can become very painful.
Never put the penis or a dildo into the vagina after being used in the anus, without proper washing. Never do anal intercourse without a condom.
There are aerosol cans of painkiller which can be used on you, but you will suffer for it later. It is far better to take it gradually.
Some women orgasm through the vagina wall. It is much tighter.
2007-07-04 06:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bleeding is not normal, no.
There's actually a lot that can go wrong (internal damage) in regards to anal sex, so it is best to go slow and at your own pace. Don't be pressured by your boyfriend - it's not supposed to hurt.
I'd definitely recommend the book Anal Pleasure & Health by Dr. Jack Morin - it's generally considered the best book on the subject, and there's lots of great information and exercises/tips to try.
2007-07-02 07:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You have to slowly let your anus expand by gently fingering your anus with lots of lube (YOU finger it NOT HIM)...and after you get used to the sensation, try two fingers....and then when you finally decide it's time for penetration, let him insert his penis in just a little and have it sit there. Then let him thrust slowly. If you are comfortable tell him to insert it in a little more, again...thrust slowly. If you can slowly do it, the pay-off will be it won't hurt you at all and it'll feel good for him. If you just shove it in without a lot of prep and lube, that makes for pain, and yes, anal bleeding. If you bled a lot you may want to go to the hospital. There should be no bleeding from anal sex.
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2015-09-28 03:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by Eden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy who keeps having anal sex with you even though you are crying and asking him to stop should not be trusted! Come on - wake up! Don't give it another try - dump the scumbag and move on to some else!
If you want to try it again with your new boyfriend in the future - then that's your choice - use a CONDOM and lots of lube!
2007-07-02 07:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No it's not normal. He hurt you and you should have stopped him. Anal sex needs careful preparation because the anus was not intended for that purpose. Also the walls of the rectum are thin and easily damaged. You need lubrication and gentle penetration over a period of time not wham- banm-thank-you-ma'am kinda thing. i suggest you think this over. if your boyfriend didn't stop even when he was hurting you there are more serious issues here.
2007-07-02 07:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by Scarlet 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋