My wife and I have been arguing for several months and she's asked for a divorce.
We have just put every cent into buying a new home and moved in approximately 9 weeks ago. If we are to sell our house now usinga real estate agent, we would be financially ruined. Each of us would walk away with about $20,0000 in debt and this does not take into account the costs of a divorce.
I feel our differences are not big enough to justify a divorce yet she is now firm on this decisoion ver agonoizing on it for about 10 days (based on a fight, but we've beeen bickering for about 6 months).
I want to work things out with her... we've been together for 7 years most of which has really been wonderful. we still love each other but she questions whether or not she is happy these days.
For the life of me, I have no idea what to do.
2007-07-02 07:22:40 · 11 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DON'T GIVE UP SO EASY! Try everything in your power
to work things out and if at the end you end up going through
with the divorce then at least you will know that you gave it your all and you won't have any regrets. Maybe she will be the one with regrets like in my situation. I tried so hard but he just gave up, now that the divorce is final he still calls me his wife and I know that he regrets it (you can see it in his face, hear it in his voice) but it's too late now. If he wouldn't of given up so easy I know that we would still be married and I know that our marriage would be even better now than before. There is still a lot of love between us.
2007-07-02 07:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by terry r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by telling your wife that you apologize for your part in the problems you've been having and you'd like to see a counselor about sorting things out. Tell her that if she will agree to at least go with you and talk with a marriage counselor, to see if the marriage is really and truly over, then you will cooperate with a divorce, if that is what she still wants, afterwards. If she says she loves you still then there must be something else causing the arguments, which a skilled marriage counselor can quickly get to the bottom of.
However, make sure that your motives are pure. If your simply worried about the financial implications, then if I were your wife, I'd leave you too. If you show you truly care about her and your relationship, you might have a chance.
2007-07-02 07:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me it sounds like neither of you have compromised in this situation. If ya'll had then you wouldn't have been arguing for 6 months. Seems to me that you need to try counseling for a while before making this decision. after 7 years you can't just give into divorce. It's the easy way out, a cop out if you will. Leah
2007-07-02 07:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Leah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off buying a house that is not profitable - is not a smart thing - your real estate agent wasn't a good one. Second if she is set on a divorce - there is nothing you can do. Plus if you have been bickering for the last six months - why did you buy a house???
2007-07-02 07:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by JoJo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling, counseling, counseling... you sound like you have a lot of potential to work this out... keep trying.. maybe there's more to it than what is written here, but sounds like some help for you two could do a lot of good. Tell her how much you love her still and want to work out the problems. Talk to her about getting help!
2007-07-02 07:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Please get her to talk to a marriage counselor. Let her pick even, so she's comfortable with the person doing the counseling. It sounds to me like things can be worked out if given a chance. That being said. The money is not that important. Don't make a decision based upon that.
2007-07-02 07:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by tigrompy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely needs counseling. Do your homework when selecting a counselor be sure to tell them it needs to be short term & focusd. You guys have been trough a rough time moving is a stressful time so you guys may just be in some kind of "moving warp"
My husband and I just went through something similar couseling is helping us learn to fight clean & when to pause a fight to avoid going over board.
2007-07-02 07:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go 2 counseling. It sounds like a case of the 7 year itch. Tell her what u've told us and mayb she'll change her mind and want 2 work things out.
2007-07-02 07:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has her mind made up I'm sorry to say. Been there and have done this,... and it sucks!!
2007-07-02 07:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her.
2007-07-02 07:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by ndmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋