We've been married 7 months, shes 18 and i'm 22. Things have been going along so great for us, especially lately. We went on a trip for her birthday and everything was great. Today was the first day she moved in with me because her dad wouldn't let her until today and shes' been wanting to move in so bad and now that shes here she is upset and angry and won't talk about anything, she cries and is depressed and she up and left me and left her ring on the counter and says she won't be back for a couple days. What happened? I'm totally blindsided by this one?
2007-07-02 07:22:25 · 5 answers · asked by riowildfire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude, she is 18!!!! She just left the "oppresive" domain of her fathers house and now she has moved in with you and it's not the fairy tale she imagined.
While she was under her fathers roof she saw you as a rescuer. Now that she is out of his house you have fallen into the role of her father (in her mind) and she is not going to let you "control" her.
She is confused, immature and totally not ready to be married. Do both of yourselves a HUGE favor and keep the ring. Don't let her have it back. Not for a good year or two.
When you talk to her next tell her that you understand that she has gone through a big change on her life. She has crossed her father and may have jumped into marriage a little too soon.
Then you need to let her know that you are very disappointed by what has happened because you had certain expectations and so did she. And it's time to talk about them.
Let her pour everything out. All her confusion, how she loves you,but things are different now, everything. And just listen. It's going to make you very angry. you may even feel betrayed. But if you want to keep her, just listen.
Then tell her you appreciate her telling you all this and ask her what she wants to do. Then give her a couple of days to figure it out.
Things are going to be tough and she may decide to move back home. But be patient stick with her and keep living your life as normally as possible.
Good luck.
2007-07-02 07:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Spiral Wizard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
something else could have happened that made her upset. Think about it.
She may be depressed. I was the first year or so after I got married. Actually, I think I still am.
2007-07-02 07:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who know why we do what we do. But maybe she had a different vision in her mind of you guys living together and well ..... it's was way off!
2007-07-02 07:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by JoJo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar or has another man.
2007-07-02 07:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do goffy things don't we!!
2007-07-02 07:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋