Ok. I am 14 years old, and pregnant. If you are going to say something ignorant, know that i don't play that, and i'm not gonna listen to somepne who aint my momma. Anyways, I am a sophomore, and pregnant with twins! Me and my boyfriend have been split up since we first had sex. He's 15. But he's still my best friend. He's been my best friend since I was 10 years old. I know him oh so well, and he's not a reliable person. I don't know if I can count on him to help me with the girls. But I love him. Do I get back together with him, or just forget it and try to raise my kids with the help of my parents, grandma, and my own job?
2007-07-02 06:57:30 · 37 answers · asked by piggyears 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Don't get too caught up in being with him. I know you love him but having children together is not a reason to be together. I would hit him up for child support instead. To be honest, I have had friends that have tried to 'play nice' with their babies daddy and they ended up getting screwed over. You're 14 and pregnant with twins! You don't need to worry about a 15 year old boy. Your life is going to be busy enough. If your parents are there for you, tell them how much you appreciate it and you could never repay them. Now get into Mommy Mode (thats what I call it) and get ready to take good care of them babies! Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-07-09 12:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by jessica s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i hope you realize how fortunate you're, a few guys do not even recall it's Valenitnes day and don't do anything. However should you relatively don't desire to go out easily inform him the best way you feel, allow him be conscious of you probably can as an option spend time with easily him gazing a film or some thing, or inform him he might make a satisfactory romantic dinner alternatively. It's now not critical what you do on Valentines day, all that issues is that youre with the only you prefer LOL cheesy i do know :)
2016-09-05 12:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby young also, and I found that my parents and family helped me the most. The father is now 29 years old and has seen my son about 50 times. My son is now 7.
What I did was my mom looked after my baby while I finished school. My baby went to a subsidized day care for a year part time also. You will be fine on your own, trust me. If he is 15 he is probably sh*itting his pants worrying about paying child support for the rest of his life. My son's daddy has not paid support often so the government is after him. You have nothing to worrie about. Just make sure you go after full custody. The government will pay for you to take him to court. You will also win! If the 2 of you still get along than court will be very easy. It should not be looked at as a bad thing. Unless you want to marry the guy, take him to court!!! please!!!! You guys can make your own agreements about the girls.
good luck girl!
2007-07-08 06:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. You should let him know that you didn't conceive these babies on your own, and that he's already involved whether he likes it or not. Let him know that you still love him. If you two get back together, great, for you and for your girls. If you haven't noticed, lots of kids without dads are seriously screwed up. I agree sometimes the dads are bad influences or may abuse them, but I highly doubt that ur (ex-)bf is like that. I assume that your mom and grandmom both know, but i highly doubt that you'll want to saddle them down with your babies. Sure, it's ok to let ur mom take care of them while ur at school or at work, but not while ur out at some kind of party or whatever. These kids will be YOUR responsibility! You guys don't HAVE to get back together, though, it's like you said, he's still ur best friend, if he doesn't want to get back together with you, you can keep him in the picture for your girls' sake, have them call him dad, let him spend time over but the relationship with you two is STRICTLY friendly. I understand that you still love him, but the minute you found out that you were pregnant, you should have started putting ur kids before yourself. If you need him to be with you through whatever delivery and stuff, try asking him how he felt just after you two had sex, doing whatever you did afterward (look into each other's eyes or whatever). I hope to God this helps and wish you all the luck in the world.
PS, I'm younger than you and just trying to help as best as I can.
2007-07-09 06:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by Special agent M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness girl. You've got a long road ahead of you and I give you props. I am 22 and am on my 3rd. Didn't have any in my teenage years though. First, everyone is going to give you their opinion cause you asked for it. Just listen to what people have to say. You don't have to take it to heart but every advice is given with good intent one way or another. It's really bad to say this but I wouldn't rely on your "boyfriend". He's not dependable because he's a child. His maturnity level is that of a 10 year old. Boys aren't as mature as we are. My husband is 5 years older than me and I act more grown up than he does. However, stay in contact with him and let him try to be there. Just don't be upset if he can't do it. You can't expect a cat to lay chicken eggs. At this time of need you need to be supported by your family and let them help you. Twins are an amazing thing, I have a twin brother. There's no better bond than that. I don't know what else to say to you other than just do what's right and be thankful you have family willing to help. Good luck girl! If you need anything let me know and I'll give you my e-mail address.
2007-07-02 07:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just forget it and try to raise your kids with the help of your parents, grandma, and your own job and I wish you the best.I am 16 and I have NEVA had sex and so there's not much that I could say.
but i have kinda been in the same situation because my mother and father have split up even though they neva got married and now my mother has asked me should she make my dad pay child support? and I was speechless and also my father is not a father because he just got outta jail 3 months ago and he's disappeared again and so I cry from time to time because I need my Father. I say that you should make him pay child support because if he doesn't he could go to jail.
and I just want you to know that whateva you decide to do...I TRUELY wish you and your family tha best and GOOD LUCK.
2007-07-07 13:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Mercedes16_90!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I think that if you are gonna keep these babies and that is your choice then that is great. Have these babies and give them your love and if this guy wants to be a part of their lives then let him. If not then i hope you and your family the best of luck. And this is a situation i have seen where the guy doesnt and the girl was fine or in my situation at the moment i am sixteen and my boyfriend is right next to me. So the best of luck to you. I hope everything goes well.
2007-07-02 07:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Padme S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know he's not dependable do you think he would start to be if you got back with him besides what much can you two do together you are both to young to get jobs you'll need your parents assistance not just yours his to because they are to a part of your childrens lives in fact talk to his parents if he doesn't want to get some act right they should be able to put him in line if not raise your girls with your family if you have to and you should be alright finish school and get a good job to take care of you and the twins
2007-07-07 23:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by myckie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't want to severe all ties with him since your girls will want to know their Father he should help out they are his kids too your having to grow up really fast and make a lot of decisions he needs to do some maturing to after all he got you into this situation so it his job to be responsible as for a relationship with him it's whatever your heart feels just try to remain civil atleast for the sake of your girls
Good Luck
2007-07-06 08:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Princess_Somebody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies first and foremost!! Finish school if you have the chance!! If you can't finish school then get your GED!! Have him help financially but don't try to force anything else on him. You would rather your children receive true love from him then forced love. As long as they have you and your "unconditional" love then that is all they need!! Good luck and try your hardest on making the best decisions for your children at all times...you are a mommy now!
2007-07-02 07:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by PrettyMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋