2007-07-02 06:42:50 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
He's your son. Time to be a man and make your own decisions for your family. Tell your parents that you respect them a great deal but that you have made the decision as your sons father NOT to circumcise him. My husband and I also felt it was important to leave the decision to our son.
2007-07-02 06:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia Rose 2 · 10⤊ 2⤋
Uncircumsized men are becoming harder and harder to find. There are pros and cons to both sides. In both cases, you have to clean very carefully. Circumsized you have to be careful in the aftercare of the surgery, un you have to clean wel lunder the foreskin. As boys get older I have found being circumsized is helpful. Most boys go through quite a fes dirty grubby kid years where lifint up that piece of skin is the least of their worries, and it is a breeding ground for germs. As an adult, many men still have issues keeping that area clean if they are un-circumsized!
Circumcision has also come a long way, and whereas they used to just kind of "chop it off", now it is a surgical precedure where they numb the area and are much more careful.
In the end, it is your decision, and your parents should have NO say in the matter. Honestly, once your son is born they should be much more worried about holding their grandson and fawning over him rather than worrying about his penis!
2007-07-02 14:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by marcyp06 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
None of my boys are circumcised, and despite the fact that everyone seems to be misinformed and believe that circumcised penises are "healthier and cleaner" my sons have never experienced any problems. In fact in the country that I was born circumcision is rare. My brothers were not circumcised and none of them experienced any problems. I did have a brother decide at 14 years old to get circumcised because his foreskin was pretty long and he didn't like it. So my parents took him to have the procedure and he said it wasn't a big deal. Everyone talks about how horrific it is for adult men to get a circumcision and it's not true. It's not that bad according to my brother. So, I agree. Leave it up to your son. Tell your parents that you respect their opinion but you've made up your mind as the head of your new household and that they should respect it.
2007-07-02 07:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
I agree with you that the decision should be left up to your son. My husband and I decided that since it's our son's body that he should be able to make the decision when he's old enough. They have pain medication then as well. And from what I've been told, despite everything people claim to the contrary -- it's not that bad to have it knowingly done as an adult. It's just like any other cosmetic procedure. There is some pain but it's tolerable and you're given pain medication and you're over it in a week. Tell your parents that you appreciate their input but that you and your wife have discussed it and have made the decision not to do it right now.
2007-07-02 07:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by AngelBaby 1 · 4⤊ 3⤋
You are a parent now. It's time to step up to the plate and make your own decisions. Every decision you make from now on will not only effect you, but your child. There are many pros and cons as far as circumcision goes. You are that boy's parent and you are responsible for him. Not your parents. Educate yourself on the issue and make your own decision and stand firm with it. With parenthood comes the requirement of making lots and lots of decisons. Some easy, some, not so much. I personally did not have either of my sons go thru it. I feel that they are able to make that decision when they are older. If they choose at that point to have it done. I will, of course, foot the bill. But, I did the research and talked to many people. I didn't see the need for it. It was an unnecessary proceedure in my opinion.
2007-07-02 06:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by Tina N 4 · 6⤊ 3⤋
He is your son, not theirs. You protect your sons body and tell them to back off. Print out some of the most recent research about how circumcision is not necessary if they create a stink about it. You can try to educate them about it, but some people are pretty close-minded when it comes to circumcision.
2007-07-02 07:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by iamhis0 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My opinion is that you are right on. He is your son and your parent's cannot make you circumcise YOUR son. Our son is intact and we believe the same - if he wants to have it done when he is old enough to make that decision, I will support that, but it is not MY foreskin and not MY choice to lop it off.
There are great benefits to keeping it, and few benefits to cutting it off.
If taken care of properly, there is NO difference in UTIs between a circ and a noncirc.
The prepuce (foreskin) protects the glans (head) from loosing precious nerve endings - making sex more pleasurable.
Circumcision is as painful as an infant as it is as an adult.
Circumcision carries many very real and some debilitating risks...
To me it all goes back to it not being my penis, so it is not my choice. End of story.
2007-07-02 06:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole D 4 · 6⤊ 3⤋
First, your parents can't force you to do anything, especially in regard to your son. So don't mislead yourself about that.
Proponents of circumcision will claim that it prevents disease, even though the chances of that disease are so remote that they shouldn't even be considered. Besides, its like saying that a baby girt should have her breasts or ovaries removed at birth so she'll never get breast/ovarian cancer.
Some will claim that circumcised boys are cleaner. One isn't made cleaner by removing god-given body parts. One gets clean and remains clean by learning good hygiene regimens.
The foreskin is arguably the most sensitive part of a human body. Why are we so anxious to remove it? It just seems barbaric to me. Please read the following site before you make any decision.
http://www.circumcision.org/
2007-07-02 07:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by Tom K 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Are you an adult? How can your parents force you to circumsize YOUR son? this is your son, you make the decision. I think you are right and allow your son to make his own decision when he is an adult. Now grow some balls and stand up to your parents and put your foot down.
2007-07-02 07:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
How are your parents "forcing" you to do anything? Are you under 18....are your parents going to be the legal guardian of your son? There is nothing wrong with wanting to let your child decide for himself if he wants circumcision when he is older, but be advised that the older the child is the more he will remember, and from what I've heard its is a VERY uncomfortable recovery.
2007-07-02 06:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 1⤊ 6⤋