My husband and I were married earlier this year and are now expecting our first child together. He has an ex-girlfriend that he was engaged to a few years back, but she dumped him. Even although she knows about us, she still phones and texts him every so often, most recently to ask for his address so that she could send a congratulations card on our recent wedding (she had previously requested that she ben invited to the wedding!) My husband - who I trust implicitly - says that he has told her to stop calling and now simply ignores her messages and calls. Why does she keep calling and what should I do about it? She does not live locally and I have never met her.
2007-07-02 06:28:42 · 18 answers · asked by ebf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do nothing. You let him handle it as you say you trust him implicitly. Enjoy your new marriage and pregnancy. Don't worry. Congrats on baby!
2007-07-02 06:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to take your husband's word for it and put the whole thing to the back of your mind like he has. There's nothing you can do about it, and if you show you're jealous, this could annoy your husband and the last thing you want is to let this woman divide your relationship. She will eventually get the message, and even if she doesn't, there's not much you can do about it. I don't think it would help if you spoke to her, it would give her even more of a reason to talk to your husband. She would be telling him that you're harrassing her and you don't want that. I really think you both need to just forget this woman exists and ignore any contact she attempts.
2007-07-02 13:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by alex2410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously still has feelings for him and wants to keep him in her life somehow.
That's good that your husband tells her not to call, and also that she doesn't live locally.
Most likely she will meet someone new eventually and move on, but as long as you trust your husband things should be ok.
2007-07-02 13:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by RDwannabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. It's up to your husband to handle that. As long as he doesn't take the calls, she should stop calling soon enough. Congratulations on your first child and I wish you and your husband the best!!
2007-07-02 14:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You continue doing what you have done from the beginning IGNORE. You have what she once had and she let it go..she has her own mixed feelings right now.."Oh well too bad.." she should have thought about that decision better than. You and your husband (her ex) are having your first child together..focus on this and enjoy for the sake of your baby and marriage..She wants what you have too bad for her again..IGNORED her and ENJOY YOUR MAN, MARRIAGE AND ABOVE ALL YOUR BABY..Good luck
2007-07-02 13:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you chose to "do something" about it, it will probably cause a lot of trouble. If you trust your husband, then let it go. He has told her to leave him alone. The only thing he can do is ignore her. She'll eventually give up.
2007-07-02 13:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She keeps calling and texting because your husband ALLOWS her to do so. IF he didn't want her calls and texts coming through he COULD block them. Obviously he doesn't want to. Stop blaming HER and have a talk with your husband.
2007-07-02 15:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently they are not as EX as you would like - upcoming child notwithstanding.
That said, he needs to either change his numbers/accounts or file against her for harassment.
But I'd watch for any other "accounts" you don't know about. Again, he tells you one thing - but 2 plus 2 are adding up to 3.7 or 5.1....
2007-07-02 13:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is calling and texting because she is still interested in him. The fact that he ignores her messages shows that he is respecting you, but he needs to go a little further. Tell him to block her number from his phone. If he doesn't immediately agree to do that, your marriage is in trouble, for he is still interested too.
2007-07-02 13:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is something your husband needs to put a stop to. You should not have to do anything about it. He chose you to be his wife. . .he needs to let his past go.
Instead of just ignoring her he needs to tell her point blank that he is not interested in keeping any kind of relationship with her and to stop contacting him. . .end of story.
2007-07-02 13:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by sparkles9 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋