After 37 yrs together, my husband decided that he didn't love me anymore. How do I deal with that?

Question

He was abused as a toddler by his uncle and a male babysitter. He remembered about it three years ago. I still love him very much, we still communicate and he says that I'm a big part of his life and cares very much about me. I am very confused and I think he is too.When he needs to talk, he calls me. But he found somebody else. I don't know if I should wait for him or go on with my life. He was always good to me and I didn't know we had a problem. All I think about is him and it's been seven months. I realy hurt inside.

Answer 1

Well, I don't think that you can do that by yourself at this point. After seven months of grief, I think it's time to be good to yourself and find a competent therapist to help you find ways of dealing and coping.

But, it will take more than just dealing and coping. I think you are going to have to be resolved to this situation, as well. You can't hold on to something that isn't there, no matter how nicely he treats you. If he has found someone else, then it's time to cut whatever attached strings remain and get on with your life. You can't continue to play the considerate friend when you have been told that your husband doesn't love you anymore.

I wish you all the best. This a terrible thing to happen to you. If you have any religious connections or support group, now is the time to be involved in that as well.