He was drunk and said he loves me and im a part of him cos of our baby, but he said he puts on a front when he's with me why?. When we argue he always put's me down and calls me names and when we split and i pretend i have a new man, he says he dosen't want anything to do with me or our baby cos i got a new man. Why is this? im confused.
2007-07-02 05:53:45 · 7 answers · asked by nubia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know he has feelings for me.
2007-07-02 10:39:42 · update #1
He may have feelings for you but why doesn't he marry you? Arguing with someone and putting her down and calling her names is not the best way to argue but plenty of people argue that way. Since he does that to you and I assume it hurts, have you tried calling him names and putting him down in these arguments too - you've got plenty of ammunition; the guy's not perfect.
If you two were arguing and you called him 'Sh**head' repeatedly and pointed out what a loser he is, do you think he'd stay in the relationship? Do you think he'd stay because 'he has feelings for you'?
I doubt it too. He'd throw some sort of major tantrum and threaten to abandon you and the baby. There's a small small chance that he'd just retreat in shock and you could point out that this is the level of his conversation when he argues, so he should feel comfortable with it.
When you split and you pretend to have a new man, that game-playing buys you some time. I assume it works to keep him interested because he gets jealous and eventually comes back. You understand him pretty well. He says he doesn't want anything to do with you when you pretend you are with a new man - because you know that is exactly the right weak spot he has that you can use to get to him. It works, doesn't it?
He's not willing to commit to you. If someone comes along who really gets him interested and she returns the interest, he'll be on his way. You'll always be in his life because you are the father of his child (don't be surprised if he does go away for long periods in the future if there is a woman involved). However, he's not going to be the committed husband who takes care of you and is legally responsible for you and his child. He'll just be your temperamental boyfriend.
I think any woman deserves better than that. You do. I guess you just have to be convinced of that yourself in time.
2007-07-09 07:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you found a real winner... First of all girl, GET OUT!!! He sounds like he's got some issues and he is trying to punish your child for you trying to move on with your life (even if you aren't). He needs professional help! First off for that alcohol problem, next for his attitude. Don't pretend to find a new man. Just get one, and fast!!!
2007-07-08 07:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by *~PEACHY~* (^_^) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey...he doesn't have feelings for you or he wouldn't treat you this way...caring about someone isn't hurting them or threatening them,etc....I was in the same boat....my baby's daddy told me he loved me and that he wanted me and the kids to move to another state with him....then I get a phone call from another woman asking me who I was etc...come to find out ....this was his girlfriend who he was living with in that other state...this isn't about me so I'll stop there but just know this...just because you have a baby together doesn't mean you have to put up with his triflin' ways.....Believe me...there is hope for you and your baby....there are men out there that will do you both right...God brought one to me...we've been married allmost 8 years and he's the best ever!!! Trust me....leave him behind and start over....don't try to look for another man right now...focus on getting your life straight....then, when God feels its time for you to meet the right man...he will come to you and you'll know he is the one....
Look up 1 Corithians 13 in the Bible....it will tell you exactly what love is.....
2007-07-09 08:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by Julie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people believe that when you are drunk you always say the truth....I personally hate drunk people and if he acts like that when he is sober it means that he has no feelings for you whatsoever and you shouldn't be around him or even your baby
2007-07-02 06:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Cristina A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, being drunk does NOT give you an excuse for ANYTHING! quit playing kiddie games, you are a MOTHER now, it is time to grow up and act like one
2007-07-09 00:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that he uses you when he wants to and throws u away when he wants to. cause he knows ull be there. its sad cause u do have a baby together so u do need to see him. but not take his nonsense. send him packing if he treats u bad. thats not love its abuse hes a dog
2007-07-10 05:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is superficial. your not a part of him. the baby is part you and part him. GET a new man. This one is a DUD!
2007-07-09 07:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Georgia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋