We will be moving within the next 6 months, and he will also move to the same town to be near her. He says that the reason he is spending time with family and friends here is that he will have lots of time to spend with her after the move. But she is 5 weeks from her delivery date, and really needs to have him around, and wants him to share in the experiences of the pregnancy. If he were moving in the next couple of weeks, I can see him wanting to see people before he goes. But the move is likely 6 months away. Are we seeing this wrong? I say there are enough hours in a day for him to see everyone, as he is not working right now. She doesn't want all his time, just a share of it. He has gone to the fair with his brother, and is taking his sister tonight, but he hasn't asked her to go to the fair with him. Would you feel hurt if you were 17?
2007-07-02 05:52:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was 18 when i was pregnant with my firsty born and my boyfriend at the time did the same thing he was never around..and i was sooo sad beccause i wanted him to experience everything with me but he had better things to do ..my mom (like you) was the only one i can count on to be there for me.. my boyfriend also almost missed his birth because he wasnt with me at the time i went into labor...But my mom was! anyway the point i wanted to make was ..yes, it is totally normal for her to be hurt..just be there for her during this time to fill in the empty gap...hopefully he will change.
Good Luck!
2007-07-02 05:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was also pregnant at a young age and my boyfriend did the same thing at this point he scared of whats going on he will be a father in 5-7 weeks and most guy if he's young also know that there life will be devoted to the baby after it arrives and have no time for fun tell her to talk to him and let him know that she is the most critical moments in her pregnancy and that upsetting her can harm there baby and it won't kill him to spend a few hours with the women who's caring his child
2007-07-02 06:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you conceive a child without having the bonds of commitment in place then this is what happens. He is a child and should not be in this position of having to give up his freedom.
Just exacxtly what could she do at the fair? She can't go on rides, its hot dusty, requires walking long distances, etc. He wants to go have a good time. Taking a 35 week pregnant GIRL to the fair does not sound like fun to me.
2007-07-02 06:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by professorc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, at 8 mos pregnant, he likely assumes the fair would be uncomfortable for her- since it's hot, lots of walking, and she couldn't go on most of the rides. It's not fair, but he may just assume she's not interested. It would have been nice for him to ask ther though. 17 is obviously old enough to make a baby, but to be a responsible father and supportive partner for your daughter? He may just not be mature enough to handle this the "right way". Maybe your daughter just needs to sit him down and talk to him, and if he doesn't make more time for her, then maybe reconsider having him not move with you. Your daugher may be hurt, but......unfortunately that is life.
2007-07-02 06:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sure she would feel hurt, but mom
c'mon, he's and she are only 17
don't make matters worse by pointing out his every flaw
if you want your daughter to be happy, discourage her insecurities
its not your job too mother her any more, she is a mother now,
and lets face it he is probably not gonna follow
if he were he'd be leaving at the same time as you,
moving in with you
and you'd be supporting all 3 of them
Mom boys aren't women, and you can't expect them to act as if he is a sensitive girl, a friend??
No he is a boy, not even a man
Mom i have been where your daughter is now,
its her fault she is pregnant, and yes you need to be there for her, but Why are you encouraging her to wait for him to take her to the fair? Let her gather up the courage to go herself
or with friends, or maybe even you grandma?
help her to be independent of this guy, let her become a woman, its hard and it hurts
but its too late for slowly
email me if you need to talk
Meg
2007-07-02 06:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is outrageous! I think everyone has been a little too nice with this guy. He needs to get a sit down with the dad, or a father figure who can put things in perspective. Time when a woman is pregnant is the most important time, when she should get lots of love and attention, so that the child feeds from this happiness. Every emotion/ feeling affects the baby.
However, on the other hand no one can make anyone do something they do not want to do, but there is one who can. God! I have had to struggle with my husband in the beginning, but I put it all in prayer. He is now, not just involved, but very excited and active in the preparations for my soon to come daughter.
If you need prayer or your daughter needs someone to talk to, please feel free to contact me.
God bless you and I wish you both the very best. Until that boy, gets his act together I suggest you keep her mind busy with activities, it will definitely ease the pain of the father's abscense.
“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28).
Don’t carry your burdens. Give them to Jesus by faith. He is well able to help you through difficult times.
2007-07-02 06:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by milenka_b 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do nooot permit Jenna pass and not Emilie. If I have been Emilie i might hate you (i'm a sixteen year previous female). Letting the greater youthful sibling pass and not the older sibling? it relatively is soliciting for catastrophe. If I have been her, i may well be jealous and offended and insurrection out as much as i might desire to. In all honesty although, if this is intercourse which you're stressful approximately them doing then no rely in case you enable them to stay over at their boyfriends' abode or no longer, they're nonetheless gunna do it in the event that they're gunna do it. they simply in simple terms isn't doing it that night. even if, conversing as a sixteen 365 days previous myself, i will certainly say that i might in no way in a million years assume my mom to conform to permit me stay at my boyfriend's abode. i does not even ask. yet as quickly as I have been to stay at my boyfriend's abode i does not have intercourse with him...yet in basic terms because of the fact i'm saving my virginity as a private selection. yet maximum youth in recent times do no longer wait till love or regardless of. i comprehend that anybody of my acquaintances may well be doing the grimy in the event that they have been allowed to sleepover at their boyfriend's abode. So it actual relies upon on what your daughters are like. in actuality, no person is familiar with greater effective than you gain this do exactly what you sense is right. If I have been a discern, I in all probability does not permit my daughters pass. i might tell them that they might stay till previous due (like 11 or 12) and then come abode. there is not any rationalization why they might want to stay the whooole night.
2016-10-03 10:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds very immature!and is probably a little scared about the prospect of being a father, he may also feel that he wants to get certain things out of his system before she has the baby! its best for someone to have a word with him, not be judge mental or get worked up but just to tell him that he is needed and wanted! he may also feel that he has no time alone with your daughter without you over looking! as parents we want the best for our children and may not realize how we come across! you also know yourself that pregnant women can be very snappy and horrible to their partners and maybe your pregnant daughter has been like this to him and he feels its best to give her space. no one can really say for sure what is going on in his head, unless he is spoken to, maybe if your on good terms with his parents you could have a word with them.your daughter would be the best person to tell him how she feels, but saying that, she may not be able to do it in a way that conveys how she feels without actually upsetting him and making it worse.. i wish you luck!
2007-07-02 06:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by hhutchie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25 and I'd be hurt.
It sounds to me like he's having some second thoughts about being a father. They should really sit down and talk.
2007-07-02 06:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jacob's Mommy (Plus One) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How she is feeling is right. He should be spending time with her. I can't say why he is spending time with everyone else right now though. There are lots of reasons that could be speculated about. Good luck.
2007-07-02 06:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋