me and my husband have been married 2 years as of july 17th, this year, but for the last 3 months we have been separated due to his constant lying, putting his friends and family before me,he also had a fling with a 20 year old, he is 31 !! what did it for me was when he gave a crackhead some money!! he denied the fact and we had a fight, he left, well why he was gone he left me with all the bills, i got evicted, lights turned off, i had to go to court. well this guy that liked me helped me with my living situation, we now stay together. all my family is from the north. since my husband has found out about all of this, he has people spying on me and tells me i am wrong but how i say when u left and gave me your a$$ to kiss?
2007-07-02 05:19:48 · 33 answers · asked by INEEDABOSS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO. if he did all that to you why are you not able to live a life now? he's been hurting you so much and now you have someone that shows you all the love you need dont leave that b/c of ppl saying stuff about you or juding you wrong. live your life how you want and deserv be happy dont let NOBODY put you down. you doing good
2007-07-02 05:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you did nothing wrong. He left you...not the other way around. He left you in a bad situation, where you had no money, you had a lot of bills, and you lost your home....I would tell him to kiss your @$$. If he cheats on you and gives other women money, then just be glad you only invested 2 years in this marriage, get yourself a lawyer, and get yourself a divorce. Forget him honey, it sounds like you are doing better already.
2007-07-02 05:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by addybme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have gone to the court, you should be in control over things. You should not fear for anything. if you are happy living with a new person, let your ex know about it. I mean have him understand. that you are in better living now.. you have also said that you are seprated. if you think it should be with help of law, treat it like that. Try and come up with a solution. Getting back to him in a harder way will only give trouble to you. He expects you to be angry, if u do get angry, he wins.. so just keep it cool and deal with it slowly but smartly.! All the best !
2007-07-02 05:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by SK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl do what you do! If that you husband wanted you all he had to do is keep you right? But no, men get a lil chick in there ear and they start feelin 18 again, hes just mad cause he probley thought that you would let him come crawling back . And when he found out that another man is doin what hes supposed to be doin he got his ego takin down a notch. Keep pushin and let that man suffer for letting you go!
2007-07-02 05:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Heather G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm never married but here's my advice.
What your man did is utterly wrong. To overcome him is not by fighting fire with fire (ie, when he rages at you, you don't react). Rather fight fire with water, (act kind...and charming ...that way...you can meddle with his thought and overcome him mentally). Believe me, that way, he acts like an idiot and he won't know what hit him. Get a good marriage councillor and learn the law for all the bullsh*t he did to you. Play legally. If he's smart he'll not fight back but if he thinks he knows the game then show him that "When you strike a woman, you strike a rock".
Point: You cannot fight a fool by being foolish, rather his kryptonite is education (mental thought).
Hope this helps.
2007-07-02 05:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by The Elite Gentleman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. There are agencies to help people like you. Living with another man while you're still married is grounds for divorce. You're in a bad situation, but you're not making it any better by engaging in an illegal action.
2007-07-02 05:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not to blame, this guy sounds like a total jerk!! If anyone is wrong it is him fro everything that he has done from the cheating to the leaving. I say get a divorce and move on wwith your life....it will be then that he realizes that he is the one that will be taking the loss not you. Live your life for yourself and put him in your past!!
2007-07-02 05:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says that b/c he felt that he was "irreplaceable." While I do feel you need to file for a divorce b/c you are legally married. I wouldn't give to thoughts as to what he is saying. Some people can't handle the shoe being on the other foot. But really, please, get a divorce & do this the right way.
2007-07-02 05:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it was wrong of him to leave and then to top it off leave you with the bills. you guys should have worked out your problems at least to the point where he didn't have to leave. but since it happened the way it did you had to do what you had to do to. but i say you go to him and talk things out and figure what you guys are going to do about your marriage. because if you guys are going to fix it then you need to be living with him not with a guy that likes you and if you guys are not going back together then you need to get a divorce.
2007-07-02 05:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by Adina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a first class manipulator. He is uneducated, only with street stupidity. Unless he threatens you, IGNOR the looser. Other wise get a restraining order. You have help now and the other moron isn't worth your breath to argue or reason with. Get a divorce.
2007-07-02 05:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by Oppna to tal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋