I have a friend that I've known since 8th grade. We told eachother EVEYTHING and we hang out ALL the time. Then I started to realize she was kinda abusive. Whenever I am around her she makes me feel WORSE about myself. She always judges me like "Your eyes are so small (wtf?), you so tall and skinny (wtf?). I kinda started realizing that shes not much of a best friend at all. I really want to get out of this relationship but I don't know how. She is friends with all my friends and I have a feeling if I just finally told her what I thougth they would take her side and I would lose all my friends. What should I do? I know I need to be more confident and just get the **** outa there but idk what to do. ;-)
Umm so thanx!
2007-07-02 05:08:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had a BEST BEST freind since 4th grade..till like a year ago..she wasnt abusive or anything but she neglected me for her boyfreind thats how we fell out. but i can tell you right now she is jealous of you....for sure thats why she is acting like that. You dont need mallicious freinds. Your beautiful, i'm tall. Tall and skinny people are beautiful and your eyes are beautiful just the way they are too. Tell her dont hate i look cute. Confront her about it, if she doesnt quit then say you were never my freind anyways buh bye then move on with your life.
Good luck sweetie
2007-07-02 05:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one.
let's think about this logically.
you've got two choices, you can stay with this friend and ignore her abuse, or you can leave.
If you stay, you'll have to learn to ignore. And in a month, re-evaluate whether her only purpose is to whine to you. Maybe she's having some self-esteem issues of her own, and the only way to help is to put you down. Maybe she doesn't realize it's hurting you....
If you leave, you need to do some damage control. Don't just break-up with her like you'd break up with a boyfriend. Ease off. Invite her to parties less, at lunch go with other friends. Make a new best friend! She might get the hint, and talk to you - which is a good sign b/c that means she cares. If your other current friends really are you friends, they'll understand when you tell them that you can't stand her any more.
Honestly though, talk to her first. Because of you can work stuff out that way, it might make things easier. But if you realize on the other side, she just hates you. Be pereceptive! Then it's time to leave.
That's my advice!
2007-07-02 05:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretending to be friends with someone who is negative will only make you feel worse. Try to distance yourself from that negative energy by avoiding events & places where you know she'll be there, don't take her calls.
If she asks why you're acting weird, tell her that being around her depresses you. Sometimes, maybe she does not know that what she's doing hurts you. If she does not chage her ways after your little talk, cut her out of your life. Just because you've been friends since the 8th grade doesn't mean you have to stay friends for the rest of your life if you're not happy with the situation.
People change and unfortunately, she seems to have changed for the worst. Honestly, you are better off without her in your life. But I guess you could give her a second chance if she agrees to amend her ways...if you think your friendship is worth fighting for.
Life is too short to spend with people you don't really like!
2007-07-02 05:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by bluepassion_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good person to have as a friend ... if ur worried about the other friends holding it against u then all u do is slowly pull urslf away from her start hanging with other friends especially the ones that she doesnt like and then she will get the pic and leave u alone. No need to make matters worse by confronting her just let her go slowly.
2007-07-02 05:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight up what that she is hurting your feelings when she says things like that. If you just don't want to be friends then the easy way is to hang out less. The hard but more efficient way is to tell her you both shouldn't hang out anymore. I had this happen recently so ik it's hard but there are plenty of other people you can be bff with.
2007-07-02 05:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by janedoe1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First i would tell your other friends about it to make sure that they wont take sides or anything, then i would tell your bad friend that it really hurts your fellings when she says that stuff about you, and if she doesn't stop then you can't be friends anymore.
2007-07-02 05:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to walk away. i know its not that hard but explain to her that shes not being the kind of friend that you need, and walk away. if your mutual friends turn their backs on you, oh well, at least you know now that they arent friends as well.
2007-07-02 05:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you are tired of her b/s and if all your other friends take her side that means they weren't real friends to you because they are not even supposed to take side at all
well good luck
2007-07-02 05:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by mOLLy sUe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell her; it is better to piss her off than to be pissed off at yourself for allowing it. Her being mad will go away, but you being mad at yourself for letting her walk on you will not go away that easy.
2007-07-02 05:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by ♫Problem Child♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him on msn its easy
2007-07-02 08:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋