Recently, the Pew Reserach Center announced findings that children were less of a factor of a successful marriage than things like chore sharing and sexual activites. Do you think children are important in a good marriage? Do you think that adults today spend more time on themselves and each other than their kids? Do you think that the idea of focusing on making Mom and Dad happier helps make the kids happier as well?
2007-07-02 04:44:51 · 4 answers · asked by dryad_poet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The survey was conducted among Americans, and is much more in depth than I have it listed here. You can find the whole story here:
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070701/ap_on_re_us/marriage_survey
2007-07-02 04:51:55 · update #1
Actually this survey had an error of only three points. And I am not really surveying, just curious to see what others think about marriage. Plus I like to think most people are not idiots.
2007-07-02 07:27:06 · update #2
Children act as a focuser for the marriage. If the marriage was already good, the children make it better. If it was rocky to begin with the added stress of children wont make it any better. 2. Depends on the adults in question. I know that I spend a lot of time on my children, but I also expect them to be able to play/entertain themselves some of the time. Will make them better adults. 3. Yes. My wife and I adopted two children, and they were expert in finding ways to manipulate the situation so that my wife and I should have been in conflict. Since we took the time to communicate everything, the kids did not succeed. They are becoming great kids, doing well in school, and playing better with others. Because they look to our example. Children become what they see the adults in their lives act like. Therefore, if we want happy children, we must set the example.
2007-07-02 04:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read somewhere (and I wish I could remember where!) that children can actually *reduce* happiness in a marriage. It's a tough one, as very few people consider sleepless nights, crying, nappies, etc. a joy, though they may enjoy their kids later on. Chore sharing definitely makes life easier for both partners. Sex...well, that one's self-explanatory. We're a culture wired for pleasure, nowadays, and regard it as our right, and this certainly runs contrary to the self-sacrifice and commitment required to raise kids. What makes a good marriage? If both partners want the same things in life. Shared goals are vital, be it having kids, travelling, sport, etc.
2007-07-02 11:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by fayruz_fiona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistically surveys have a huge error rate. If they survey idiots their results will be skewed. Just omitting the people who were too busy to take the survey would skew the results.
Survey analysis relies on the person taking the survey to be honest, unbiased and qualified to answer the questions. Unfortunately people don't tend to be honest, try to answer to how they think will make they look better and don't always know what they are talking about.
2007-07-02 13:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy parents certainly add to a good home life for children. There's a lot of balancing with kids. Jobs, chores, family time, husband/wife time, personal time, there aren't enough hours in a day. :-)
I think far too many parents are under-involved with their kids, but sometimes it's hard to balance everything out. I do know helping out with chores eases tension at my house. And quality time without the child involved to keep in touch with my wife. Usually after the kiddo is in bed. We spend a lot of time focusing on our child though.
2007-07-02 11:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Armless Joe, Bipedal Foe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋