I've accepted the fact that I'm gay and I've came out to 2 of my most trustworthy friends and my cousins. But how do I go about telling my other friends and family members. ex. my grandfather makes fun of people because of how they look or act and I think he might do the same to me if I tell him that I'm gay.
2007-07-02 04:33:41 · 12 answers · asked by J-kwon 50000 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Don't tel him untill you feel compleatly comfortable.
2007-07-02 04:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kαtydid ★ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your grandfather is a jerk you can't help that. If he makes fun of you or puts you down it's him who has the problem, not you, you have to keep that in mind. But also do not enable it.
As for coming out to more people, so long as it doesn't risk your wellbeing or safety, you just have to step up and do it. You just need to get it out, then deal with the reactions.
Keep in mind the reactions are to something big, so people can go through denial, bargaining, depression, and anger before getting to acceptance. So if someone has a negative reaction you should give them some time, and remember that it's not personal, they're just working things out in their heads.
2007-07-02 06:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations On Accepting that your gay.Firstly,You dont even need to Tell them your gay.When I accepted the fact that I was gay,I didnt tell anyone.I just let them Find out of their own,because they could tell just by how I acted,But if your friends nd family have a problem with you being gay,Just tell them,Your proud to be gay,and proud to be who you are,because you ARE human.All Humans were Created the same,and deserve to be treated the same!!
2007-07-02 05:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are under NO obligation to tell anyone until YOU are ready. Consider the consequences when you make this decision.
I know when you come out you have the urge to shout it from the rooftops. But unless people truly NEED to know this information, do you really need to share it with them?
The next time your grandfather makes bigoted comments, you can state that you don't appreciate such "humor," and that in school they taught you that all people are valued. Let's see if he has the gumption to tell you that "this school malarkey is all wrong!" like Algebra, Physics, Chemistry, etc. :o)
Only if he directly asks you, "What are you one o' them?!?!" are you allowed to state your orientation. And how cruel he has been.
Good luck!
2007-07-02 04:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel that they will make fun of you or give you problems then maybe you should reframe from saying anything. You dont want that kind of problems. however if you really want to talk to them and tell them you should be honest and open. they might have questions and you should (if you are confortable with it) answer whatever questions that may arise. My grandma when i came out to her said she didnt understand why i want to be with women and i cant have babies with a girl (she is old fashion) however after talking with her and then introducing her to my mate, she has come to love my gf and cant wait til we adopt. You have options, tell or keep it in, but it is my experience that what is in the shadows will come to light.
2007-07-02 04:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Agent_m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are a teen, a would not come out yet, waite until your a little older, otherwise people will just tell you that it's a phase your going through. I personally don't think it's any of their business. Who you sleep with is your business!!
2007-07-05 19:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by ziggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got the same kinda problem with my family. Especially my dad.
I guess you've gotta be real comfortable with yourself. Let them know when you're feeling strongest. You might wanna play it safe and wait to tell them until you're out of the house, living on your own, or away at college.
2007-07-02 04:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it the same way as you did to your friends.And if your grandfather makes fun of you then just ignore him and tell him that you are happy who you are and you dont appreciate the way he is treating you especially during this very hard subject (i mean as in coming out is hard).Good Luck
2007-07-02 05:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by ....... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay is not a disease just come out with it
tell every one if they don't like u after that ? well tough at least you know were u stand
2007-07-02 04:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by ikerro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until you are ready to deal with and handle all the different reactions that will come your way
2007-07-05 23:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋