We've been married 5yrs. we have a 3 1/2 yr old son. I'm not on any BC, my husband is worried about supporting a new baby, but we are very finicaly stable. So I don't know what he is afraid of. Please help me convience my husband. NO Tricking.
2007-07-02 04:12:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Remind him that you've already made that first initial big financial investment, which is all those cribs and strollers and playpens and clothes, etc, etc, etc. Once you have one child, the second one really isn't expensive until grade school.
2007-07-02 04:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're not on any BC, you probably will get pregnant again. Having more kids can be very stressful for guys. I know I was that way when I found out my wife was expecting our second child. Still, it didn't take me long to get over the shock and get with the program. Don't worry so much. Most guys love their kids after they arrive, even though they don't always look forward to having more, b/c of all the perceived responsibilities that come with a growing family.
2007-07-02 06:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by historybuff33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push. He has concerns for a reason and my guess is that you are not as financially stable as you think you are.
Children are extremely expensive. You can't say, well, we already have baby clothes and a stroller. It costs approximately 1 million dollars to raise each child. Are you working? My advice to you would be to get a job and start contributing to the household expenses and start saving money for another child.
2007-07-02 05:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he really want another baby, but is concerned about financial stability, which is a valid reason, or is he just saying that, and really doesn't want another child? If he does want another baby, map out your finances, and savings, and let him see where the family is at. I'd hate for another baby to be in the picture, and this poor innocent child is the cause of fighting down the road.
2007-07-02 04:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 21:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by wilfrid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying yes to another baby and Wanting another baby are two completely different things. You may get him to say yes through pleading and begging, but that does not mean he wants another one. Getting him to agree when he does not want another baby, could end up making him resent the child and not be involved in the child's life. Make sure both of you want the baby.
2007-07-02 04:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He realized that spawning another ding-dong would not be a good thing.
Or, that's his nice way of saying "the only thing you lost since the first pregnancy was two cup sizes and I don't want to have to pretend that muffin top is just a giant boob."
2007-07-02 08:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same deal last year. It is the whole added responsibility thing for us guys. Just keep telling him how important it is to you, he'll come through. By the way I have beautiful little one year old girl.
2007-07-02 04:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doent want another child then you should repect that. You cannot force somone to want to have another child. That is a HUGE decision and he has made up his mind for now.
2007-07-02 04:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by Brooke M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone do what they don't want to do. You just have to wait until he is ready. having another baby should be something that you both want. Not something he would do just because you want to. Good luck.
2007-07-02 04:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋