am i bi and should i try?

Question

i have always been able to admire female bodies and find some girls very attractive.i draw naked women. i have kissed a girl once before when i was younger but recently i have wanted to go further.icant get it out of my head. i have a boyfriend and love him.i love men too.i dont knw where to start looking.i think i jus want to try it once to see but how do i go about it.i would be too shy to go to a gay club and i dnt want my boyfriend to find out

Answer 1

I think right now you are curious, however I think that you should try it out and see if it is something you like after you try it, you might get over your curiousity. But I agree with some of the people here that it is cheating and I think that you need to talk to your boyfriend about these feelings you are having. I dont know about having a threesome with your man cause that might complicate your relationship. if you truely dont want him to find out then you are going to have to make the decision to act of your feelings behind his back. I dont know where you live and if their are alot of gay people their but you might want to check out the local scene and see whats going on.

Answer 2

You should sort out your feelings and relationships first of all. If you really loved your boyfriend you wouldn't think about seeing anybody else. Since you have an interest in seeing someone else even of the other sex from him it would seem like you may not be in love with him but maybe it is more of a familiar or somewhat secure relationship. If you and your boyfriend are not really devoted to each other, it might be a sign that you need to make some changes in your life and grow emotionally. Most worthwile lessons in life are hard. I am close to a woman that is bi and not trying it caused her problems for years now she enjoys being with both men and women. Good luck.

Answer 3

A few years ago during a relaxed conversation, my boyfriend at the time suggested that if I were to be w/ another man, he would be devasted. However, he did not feel that my being with other women would be cheating, in fact, he thought it was hot.

I met a girl online and after talking for a LONG time, we met and one thing led to another. After we stopped seeing each other, I met another girl at school and we spent a lot of time together as well. He knew about both and didn't care.

I feel that it's cheating, but if the other person doesn't care, no harm no foul. So talk to him-- maybe he wouldn't care.

Be forewarned, though: I'm now "married" to a beautiful woman and have no desire to ever date men again. :-) Even though I find both sexes attractive, there's nothing like a woman! ;-)

Answer 4

I can answer you this question as I am a bi too. Frankly, it feels different to be close with a woman. Not just about physical already but more emotionally attached. And woman is always softer.. But the problem is, it might be difficult for the other woman to accept you unless she is "one of them" too. I have been hurt by "her" before but the feeling is just so different. Just have to ask yourself if you will be thinking of her or him more and what is the difference that you feel. Don't end up like me where I know I love "her" more but still end up marrying and divorcing cos I can't love "him" more than "her". I just had a divorce recently and now I don't care the social pressure and reality anymore, I think I can find the woman with the same sentiments too. Email me if you wanna share more...

Answer 5

Are you sure you don't want your boyfriend to find out? Perhaps he has been dreaming of being involved with two women at once, and would consider this a great idea.

If you really want to keep the two separate, you will end up having to lie to him eventually, and probably lie to her, as well. I think you are bisexual, and therefore you will have to live with the problem bisexuals inevitably face: a bisexual is almost inherently non-monogamous. And polygamy (or whatever they call it when you don't actually marry two or more people) requires great honesty and openness to work well. Living a lie will just stress you too much, and turn you into a drama queen.

Answer 6

I agree with the idea of suggesting a FFM threesome to your boyfriend. If he ok with the idea, it is a good way to "try it once". If not, then you know his feeling and can make a decision from there how you would like to go about getting the expierence you want. I am not one to recommend cheating, but then it is your choice how you do it.

Remember, the only rule to sex is "if it feels good it is ok". No matter what others tell you, this is the truth. Talk to your boyfriend, if he is understanding and loves you, I think he will be happy to help with your curiosity, if not, then at least you know that much.

Answer 7

The best thing to do is find a friend who is gay or feels the same way as you and try it with her. You need to be able to trust her, but as long as you do and she wants to, you should discover what you need to!

I would definately go with a friend, but the gay scene could work out for you. If your'e too shy though, mates or friends of friends should be good.

Answer 8

I think what your feeling is very normal. I felt the same way as you when I was 18 yrs old.

I finally met my first woman and had my first encounter. I was glad I did it because I would always wonder. It helps to have a friend to help you figure out all these feelings. I know what your going through and would be happy to be the friend that helps you sort things out!!!!

Email or IM if you like:

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Answer 9

You would be cheating on your boyfriend. It doesn't matter the sex of someone, if you are actively seeking a way to have sex or any form of intimate contact with someone other than your mate, you should be ashamed. What if he did that to you?

I don't know where women get this idea that messing with other girls isn't cheating. It is.

Tell your boyfriend about your mindset because he deserves to know. You would want him to tell you if he was interested in experimenting with guys, wouldn't you? Let him decide if it's something he can deal with. If he can't, you have a choice to make.

Make the right one. Good luck, in any event. And remember...some things are meant to remain fantasies. I hope you make the right decision and will be able to live with that decision shouild you decide to explore these fantasies because it's something you won't be able to take back.

Answer 10

i am bi i wish i could die oh how i can fly..why did i lie-
-sorry just trying to get something to rhyme.i'm no poet.

being serious for now

you can always talk to a close female friend.or discuss it with your boyfriend and see if he will be ok with it.you are cheating on your boyfriend if you dont want him to find out.he will find out.cheaters never get away with it.


i am bi i know i can fly did i just die...

sorry drifting off..

edited:i am a gay male.i would be crushed if my guy cheated on me with a girl(or a guy).would feel the same if i was straight.dont matter what gender they are if you are already with someone then its cheating.no way around it.no if no but.it is so cheating.

answer me and anyone else this:would you care if your boyfriend wanted to have sex with another guy and claiming it was not cheating?