What is happening to my relationship with my wife?

Question

Hi everyone,

I am married to the love of my life for the past 2 years now but for the past few months everything is not the same.

She has stopped reacting to situations and has stopped showing affection.

I have tried several times to ask her the issue and discuss the matter (if any) openly, but i never get a feeling of interest from her side.

I am extremely afraid and not able to understand what is happening.

Please analyse the situation neutrally and reply.

Helppppppppppppp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Have you done anything differently? Like stopped calling or texting her just because? Or stop bringing her little gifts because you thought about her? Or maybe even stopped doing all the little things that matter? She even could be depressed and have a slight increase/decrease or hormone levels. She could be stressed out and by the time you come around, she has no energy. Or her iron is low, and makes her tired and cranky. She could be pregnant. Check out all your options; hormone imbalancement, excessive stress, you.

Answer 2

Been thru it man. After 16 years my wife who had worked really hard making me happy just went the other way and lost interest. She had started another job where all the people she worked with were divorced or single.I have been thru the same feelings but we have children so there was no leaving for me. We did separate but only for about 6 months.
The only thing that saved our marriage is prayer and I mean a miracle. I hope things are not that serious for you and your wife. Try asking her to go to conselling or maybe go on a trip.
Just keep loving her. Love is a verb you decide to do it and just do it.

Answer 3

This is a hell of a place to try and get some psychotherapy. I'd suggest that you and your wife seek some help from a professional, ie: marriage or relationship counsellor. Perhaps she is in a bit of a funk or a bit depressed at present and not able to express her opinions and/or feelings with you openly. Regardless of what may be hindering your relationship, I would recommend that you nib it in the bud and seek out the help of someone as soon as possible before things grow. Best of luck and please continue to support your wife through her troubled times and let her know you are there to love and support her if she needs/wants you at any time.

Answer 4

She is either upset with you or she is having some issues herself...she isnt pregnant right and perhaps not wanting to tell you...but why she is the love of your life and you still love her and want babies together,how about her general health,did you notice any real changes......or maybe she thought she has seen you with some other lady but you wouldnt do this to her right.Usually if its a guy he is fooling around...just sit her down or take her to your FAVORITE restaurant and start talking,if not she wont stay the love of your life....

Answer 5

My first instinct would be to see if there is someone else that she is either with or in the verge of being with. See if she starts to dress differently, starts to go places or stay places longer than normal and also see if when she comes home or goes somewhere if she starts to pay extra attention to you when she gets back. If it isn't that, then i would just sit her down and ask her what you could do to make your relationship more solid that it seems because you don't want to lose her.

Answer 6

Tell her about your frustrations and carefully explain that you liked the relationship much more when there was more of an affectionate mode to it. If you do not tell her, she will not know what is wrong. Lots of people get bored with everyday things, or are tired from working two jobs, (housekeeping and working a job) for instance. TALK TO HER.

Answer 7

this is strange. the only thing you can do is just ask her. i know its easier said than done but theres nothing else that you could do really. you could write her a letter telling exactly how you feel, because sometimes its difficult to express your emotions when you are this afraid. im sorry for being negative, but sometimes couples act like this when they are cheating on their partner, or feel that they want to. to solve the whole problem indirectly, maybe you could try and 'spice' up your relationship a bit, or take her out and really spoil her, show her how much she means to you. good luck!

Answer 8

More often than not this is a sign of infidelity, if she's unwilling to discuss the matter with you which is what she should be doing, then you have no other recourse than to hire a private investigator. I know the thought of doing this may be painful for you and I can relate, but it will be less painful knowing the truth than living a lie. I feel for ya man, I've been there and know how difficult it is, especially when you're doing what you should be doing. Good luck!

Answer 9

my guess would be that she has bean reminded of some trama in her past or she is having an affair
sorry that is what the situation sounds like to me
and the only way to find out is get into her emails
and look at the phone bill numbers if you see a number you
don't remember call it and find out who it is or use White Pages- they can get you a name from a number- that is all i can do your marrage might not make it if i am right

Answer 10

She has stopped reacting...meaning she's indifferent...meaning she doesn't care. She's also stopped showing affection. Ask her straight out, is there someone else? If she's fallen in love with someone else, and he's that important to her, then she shouldn't hide it.

Aside from that possibility, has anything in your lives changed? Loss of job, new baby, etc.? Start from when she began to change, and go from there.