My husband's grandmother is very ill. Grandma is in the hospital and her alcoholic/druggie daughter (husband's aunt) is using her house. SHe has another woman living there right now too (she met this woman in rehab). We believe they are cleaning grandma out - jewelry, checks, etc. We will be visiting the house today, kicking the women out and changing the locks. Need to take care of grandma's cats - how else can we protect grandma (not able to make own medical decisions or anything). Thanks for ANY HELP!
2007-07-02 03:17:49 · 9 answers · asked by Mommyof3 BGB 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
OH MY! Grandma has no money a little trailer, just worried about her losing it - it's her LIFE
2007-07-02 03:25:13 · update #1
Good Luck... This is such a common problem, and there is no correct answer. It sounds like you're doing all you can, so keep up the good work. The laws are helpless here and these animals can't be stopped easily. Endeavor to persevere.
2007-07-02 03:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully she has a will that says who gets what so see if you can find that if her daughter hasn't taken it and disposed of it. You might have to call some lawyer's offices to see if anyone has a copy of it or see if it has already been filed and being held by Probate Court.
Once you get that, you can determine if anything is missing that should have gone to another person in the family. You can make a police report on any stolen items (try to provide drawings of any jewelry) because the daughter didn't live there, therefore she had no right to go in and remove anything.
Once you've made a police report, talk with the detective assigned to the case to get advice on how to check the Pawn Shops for any stolen items. Our Pawn Shop Sq was part of the Burglary Sq but worked separately so depending on the size of your city, you may need to talk with them, too.
Someone in the family needs to go to Probate or get a lawyer and get Guardianship and they may have to get a restraining order against this woman's daughter. You should also see about having deadbolt locks installed on the doors and notify neighbors that she isn't allowed to be there once you have legal standing and can say that. Go ahead and put the deadbolts on now to protect the woman's property.
God bless you for trying to get answers and help your husband's family. Seems every family has some dishonest people in them today which is so sad.
2007-07-02 10:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the cat catcher and get rid of the cats. Humanity sake. Go to the property taxes and get the exact description of the residence. Fill out a QUIT CLAIM DEED. The less said the better. Buy them at the stationary store if ya have to. Take the deed and a notory public to grandma in the hospital and have her sign it. Tell her she has to sign it and keep your mouth shut. File the signed deed at the court house and the house is yours--you own it. NO, one can change the owner ship. Grandma connot give away something she does not own in a will.. If grandpa is on the original deed--need a death certificate. You have done nothing but transfer ownership from grandma to you. Done nothing against the law. Then you can serve evictions notices. Thats what you can do. Make sure that she is given a check for $1 that you paid for the house as it says on the QC Deed. Get it done as quickly as possible--the house is worth thousands. Get yours first. If you care that much -- git her done. NOW Get rid of the cats--they stink
2007-07-02 10:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by Gerald 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this because you are dealing with family, even if she is questionable in personality, but there should also be a restraining order if any of these aligations are true. Otherwise, all she need to is come back when you are gone. (Locks only keep honest people out, dishonest people know how to get around them.) You should also get an in-home caregiver if you two aren't going to be staying there on a regular basis.
2007-07-02 10:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by fesspoint 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe by contacting the local adult protective services?! Unless she's similar to the way my mother was all her life. Not desiring to ever be sent to a nursing home.
Then becoming a catch 22 unless someone close to her can have her move in with them or vise versa.
2007-07-02 10:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by SMILING BOB. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go directly to your local "Health and Human Services" office. No matter how long it takes. Ask for Elder Abuse protection for your grandmother. They will investigate and see if she is being abused. They will also help you protect her assets and health.. I would also ask them to close the checking account for Grandmother and open a new one quickly. It is a felony for anyone else to cash or use her S.S...
2007-07-02 10:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by jack09 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have grams sign power of attorney
so u & the hubby can make decisions for her
call police & investigate possible theft
look for drugs in the house
have the nut arrested &
get a restraining order
2007-07-02 10:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you grandmother is incapacitated, you can request the court make you guardian ad litum. Or assign an uninterested party as guardian ad litum, to protect her assets and make what decisions are necessary on her behalf.
2007-07-02 10:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you nosing into your husband and his sisters afairs?
are you afraid you 'll be left without some financial gains?
2007-07-02 10:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋