Does your spouse make being pregnant harder by having unrealistic demands from you?

Answer 1

if i was on dr ordered bedrest he was great but when i got taken off it he expected an imaculate house (not happening when 30 wks pregnant with two toddlers under foot). He still has to high expactations for me a week after delivery.

Answer 2

While I do have a great husband, I do think that sometimes it's hard for men in general to understand the toll that pregnancy takes on our bodies. After all, women have been doing it for a million years and they even did labor jobs while doing it. So, when they see us complaining about everything hurting or being exhausted, they think we are just being whiny. Now, I don't know what kind of unrealistic demands your spouse is making. However, I do know that when I can't do something, I don't. And my husband then understands that I'm really not feeling well. So, regardless of what kind of demands your husband is putting on you, your first priority is to that baby your carrying. And you need to do what is right for the baby and nothing else.

Answer 3

I have a 17 month old daughter. I was alone for most of my pregnancy and the first 10 months of her life because my husband was in Iraq. Now, he's home and I am 15 weeks pregnant. He thinks that because I did everything by myself last time around that I can do it again. Before my pregnancy, I did most of the household work, while going to school. Nothing has changed since I got pregnant... well, actually I do more because I am tired of constantly bitching at him to do stuff...

But, I love him dearly and he's a wonderful father.

Answer 4

Actually yes. My husband has been the most unsupportive person I can imagine - this pregnancy has sucked because of it and I've never been under so much stress in my life. I work full time - am a college student, help run a pottery business and raise his two kids from a previous relationship yet he complains that I'm lazy because he gets home before me in the afternoon and has to straighten the house and then compares me to him and about how he does it all.

Which, is why we are getting divorced as soon as she is born.

Answer 5

My husband has been amazing. I do most of the housework because I am a teacher and I am home all day during the summer. But some days I am dead tired or sick and he comes home cooks and helps pick up. Also if things don't get done he never complains. I am very lucky to have him. But then again I knew this about him before we married.

Answer 6

Have you talked to him about this? Us guys have no idea (besides the lifting stuff, which my wife still wanted to do) what a pregnant woman can and cannot do. Whenever I would try to do something for her I would get told she was pregnant, not crippled. I think communication is key here.

If he still makes these demands, well, sorry but you married a jerk.

Answer 7

This is our second pregnancy and my fiance has been a pain. He contradicts himself a lot. He wants me to relax, but he also wants a clean house. He wants me not to over do it, but he wants me to clean up after our son and puppy. Other than that he can be great at times. He was wonderful the first time around though. And this is the pregnancy that had the most problems.

Answer 8

my partner is fully supportive and has taken on alot of the responsibilities when he found out I was pregnant.

I can imagine a partner with unrealistic demands would make pregnancy harder.

Answer 9

No never has and he's very cautious if anything he's like a hawk LOL.(hes deployed atm comes home when I'm 39wks and 2days. Cannot wait hes been gone over 6 months of this pregnancy cant wait to show him my belly:)) I'm 34wks atm. he calls to make sure I'm drinking lots of water resting and not overdoing anything LOL.

I'm very grateful to have him:)

Answer 10

My husband is very supportive. However, he can get a little disappointed with me when it comes to cleaning. I am 39 weeks 6 days pregnant. I clean when I am feeling up to it. But not all the time because my back hurts and my legs. Also, I don't really drive. I have a license, but I never drove by myself and I never drove period. Recently, he leased me a car. And he expects me to drive it. This kinda pisses me off. I mean I am very pregnant and afraid to drive in the first place. And just now, he told me he wants me to go back to work 6 weeks after the baby is born. Before he told me he wanted me to go back to work when the baby is 3 months old. I really wanted to spend some time with my baby and get her on a schedule before I went back to work. And now he just threw this at me. But, we need the money. He is working 24/7 and 2 jobs to support us. I guess I am not being fair. I dunno.