Friend TROUBLE!!!! :(:(?

Question

Emma used to be nice happy gilr and didn't care what anyone said, until someone made a stupid remark about her and she turns into this punker freak. She puts red and blonde highlights in her hair and then she starts judging people but what they wear or say. She talks behind everyone's backs and everyone in are class get's annoyed at her. Sometimes she'll call me and inmeddiatly talk about her problems and her troubles and everything about herself. Even sometimes she talks through the whole phone calls without me saying a word and says "ok bye" and hangs up. People make fun of her and talk bad about her now and I told her to ignore it. But all she dose is snap back saying "STOP HELPING ME I'M FINE!" Hello? She kept telling me all her problems! I made a new group of friends but all she dose is judges them and says "Why are you friends with those brats?" and now my new group is getting annoyed at Emma! I try explaining everything to her and tried to dirft away from her. But it's non stop

but she just races over to me again. i can't stand her! I tried ignoring her, keeping phone calls short, not replying to her e-mails, and everything else. She just clnques back on. All my friends keep saying "diss her, it's that simple" but I don't want to be completly rude. She thinks were going to be best friends forever but 1 and a half years are fine with me. Oh and she easily get's jealous all the time. One time she called me miss perfection. And going with that, she'll start the fight on something complety random and spread mean rumours about me and give me awful glares. And a day letter she sends me a note or talks to me about how she was really sorry with the stupid puppy dog face. I think you all get the point. She is horrible! HELP ME!

Answer 1

Do you have a school shrink at your school?
because my school does and i think she needs to talk to one. She obviously has alot of problems and since you cant help her, maybe someone else can.

Answer 2

I admire you for trying to help Emma and trying to stay her friend. That is very noble of you. Most people would not put up with someone like that for long. But if Emma is not willing to BE a good friend, you may have no choice but to drift away. If she doesn't want your help, there is little you can do. That said, this problem may well stem from her home life. I suggest talking with her and telling her how you feel, and let her know you care and are concerned. If she reacts well, then you will have been a great help and friend. If she reacts poorly, then it may be time to let the friendship go. Unfortunately, it happens. Good luck!

Answer 3

If you feel like she can no longer be a part of your life, tell her and ignore her attention seeking behavior.

Of course some people are insecure and don't feel good about who they are. This may be her way of trying to get the attention she needs. She may have low self-esteem. It sounds like she is having a hard time with people making fun of her and talking badly of her. I think that there are many people who have gone through this at some time in their life.

Personally, if I were you, I would try to let her know how I feel. I would explain to her that although she can share her problems with her friends, she also needs to consider the feelings of others.

If you really don't want this responsibility, then don't worry. I'm sure in time she may find some new friends and will leave you alone. (People can change. There is hope.)

Answer 4

If she's a friend you want to keep and think she's just going through a phase, you can show her she's headed the wrong way by just being yourself and you're more happy with new friends who don't act the way she does. She may be acting punk because of a guy she's trying to impress, or because of new music she's become kinda addicted to. She may be rebelling against her parents. Hopefully it has nothing to do with drugs, but who knows these days. She may want to put on airs of the bad girl image to have people talk about her, thinking she will be popular with certain people. Whatever her reason, just be a casual acquaintance towards her to see if she reacts more positively toward you

Answer 5

You need to tell her like it is. On one of the phone calls, just but in and say "well I haven't been doing well either, thanks for asking" it will grab her attention and she'll listen. Vent to her about all of the trouble she's caused you. That's not fair that she is the only one getting in on the conversations, so interupt her. Make her feel bad, she obviously has done that to you. Don't let her step all over you, friendship is a two way deal.

If she has a problem with your friends thats her problem. I am sure that they are very nice people.

I hope that helps!

Answer 6

This might be a little mean but next time she calls hang up on her. When she calls back say "I'm sorry but when you call you don't ket me talk or give u any advise and i can't take it anymore. I like how you used to act better than this goth person who people make fun of."

Best of luck and I'm not just saying that. Good luck!

Answer 7

Well, be honest with her. It seems like you've already done that. Tell her again maybe in a nicer why, try not to criticize her while you do it. If she still doesn't stop, well that's just a friend that you don't need. Just let her know that you are worried about her and your not telling her just to rag on her, your just telling her because you love her and your her friend and your trying to help. If she doesn't respond to that, my friend, well don't worry about it, some people are just stubborn. At least you know that you did all you could. PEACE and MUCH LOVE!!!

Answer 8

well, maybe u shud ring her and talk to her about it, i men if u wana be friends wit oder people that is ok but jst make sure ur not leaving HER out of things wen it cums t those other friends ok? coz my best friend was always hanging around wi dis oder girl at school and always talking about her to me wen we wer together, so make sure ur not doing anything like that, maybe emma jst needs more attention from u. ask her how she felt wen every1 was judging her and talking about her behind her back, nd then tell her that she is doing the exact same thing to other people, and ask her how that makes her feel.

gud luck

Answer 9

I think this sounds like a friend that you need to let go of. Tell her that you don't feel that she is a true friend because she is too self-obsessed and that you don't want to spend your time with someone who trash-talks everyone else.

Answer 10

IS she really a friend? you have to think about it. after what you wrote, i thinkk she isnt. i had the same promblem. If you dont like her so much, then you dont have to put up with her! just tell her what you think. and if she gets mad, just forget a she'll learn. If you still care about her , help her when you think shes in trouble. tell your friends your promblems but dont gossip about her. if she gets mad at you express your feelings1 everything you just wrote, tell her! hope this helps