Male, Female, Male threesome?

Question

My husband has the fantasy of a male, female, male threesome and sometimes I do feel that if he wants to share me that he doesn't love me. He says it would be a turn on to watch me have sex with another guy. I'm afraid if we do this, that he will want his, because it is only fair, for him to be with another girl. What do ya'll think?

Answer 1

Well Kristina .....

After reading your answer to another question .... I think that this would be a perfect chance for you to start on your road to your own FMF 3-some and have that female playmate you crave. Just make sure that when you find the other female to join in that she too is bi and willing to devote some time to you. Of course, maybe this MFM 3-some is your hubby's way of experimenting too! Good luck and be safe!

Answer 2

When you compare male-female-male threesomes (mfm) to male-female-female (mff) threesome mfm threesome are a lot more common. Why is this? Primarily due to the fact for every 1 single woman interested in having a threesome you probably have 1000 males who are. Most of the time single women come to have a threesome through their male partners or if they are available have met another couple. This means the finding a single female will take a lot of time and patience. Your posting seems to suggest to me that it was not talk time but neither of you realized how difficult finding a 'unicorn', single woman, would be. Some couples will start with mfm for a variety of reasons and then work their way to mff threesomes as they learn about having a threesomes. If the two of you are interested in having a threesome then it may be worth trying mfm first or working at trying to find that third female. Remember you may spend over a year searching but if this is something that you want then it may be worth the wait. Hopefully you will achieve your goal and I wish you the best on your journey.

Answer 3

It may be his fantasy is only MFM and he has no interest in a FMF. But you have ask him not us.

But on another note, you have to be prepared for it. Even though he may never want a FMF the door has to be open for it to happen. We've known many couples that only play FMF because the husband has issues with other men and his wife, and although their wife is bi and love it too, eventually they begin to feel like they are getting the short end of the stick because well, they are bi and they would love another man be in the mix now and then. They eventually stop swinging because hubby's insecurities and thus jealousy make it no fun.

So you do have to be prepared that eventually he may ask for it, and since you have yours he should be able to get his. Swinging is the great equalizer in a relationship. If one or the other of you is not comfortable with this than you two, as a couple, are not ready to explore sexual fantasies that include others than just you two. Give it more time, talk and talk and talk about it until you are comfortable, or just keep it between you two. In swinging, the couple is always the most important thing... not the outside sex.

After reading many of the other responses I can see you are only getting opinions here and not any real advice. And from personal experience, those with the most opinions usually have the fewest facts to base them on. For some honest, open, and objective information about threesomes and swinging please check-out The Swingers Board forum. There you'll hear (for free) from those thinking about swinging (like you), those that have just started, and veteran swingers alike.

Answer 4

His is a very common fantasy among married men. Usually, it remains just a fantasy, and sometimes wives will do a little role-playing, actively pretending hubby is the other guy whilst she gets horizontal with him.
It's usually best that she simply tell him she's not interested in doing it with someone else, and that she'd prefer he not bring it up again.
While there are couples that actually enjoy doing as he suggests, they are exceptionally rare. If you think you might at some future time be willing to experiment, be very, very sure before you proceed.

Answer 5

I think I should give you my phone number, just in case!

I'm kidding. It's a bad idea. A relationship between two people is difficult enough. Bringing in a third just spells trouble on so many fronts. What happens if you like the third person better? How do you find a third person you can trust? What has this third person been in contact with? Do you have the sort of profession where if word got out about your threesome, it would damage your career?

It's great that your husband has fantasies, and I'm sure you do, too. However, this is not carte blanche to do whatever you wish on the grounds of, "If you love me, you'll do this for me.". What if you had some sort of praying mantis fantasy, where the female kills the male after sex? Would he go along with that?

Answer 6

I have observed a number of couples confront the threesome/moresome question.

When the couple is in a well-adjusted relationship with openness and honesty, it works if the secondary (fe)male(s) can cope with the boundaries the couple set. (And if you are going to do this or any swinging, do set those boundaries first.)

If one is just doing this to fulfill the other's fantasy because they feel pressured, it will cause problems. Also if the woman does not feel absolutely loved (your situation), it will cause problems.

My advice would be to work on your relationship first, then explore sex with others.

Answer 7

My husband has a similar fantasy only he wants to see me with another women. I personally won't do it and all I would think about is him looking and enjoying this other woman.
I will not do it and honestly if you don't want to do it then you have to tell him that. I feel it is degrading and would make me feel like an object instead of a person. If you are really against it then tell him it is your fantasy to see him with a man as well, all the way with another man. That is what I told my husband and he doesn't want anything to do with that.

Answer 8

It is done more often than you would believe. Some people enjoy watching their spouses having sex with others in the same room. Its a lifestyle for many and not acceptable for many more.
I know of a couple that experimented by just being naked in front of another couple. They flirted but only had sex with their own spouses. They enjoyed it and at another time they swaped spouses. today they enjoy the swinging lifestyle.
If either of you are the jealous type, dont try it

Answer 9

Sounds to me like he likes the idea of seeing you with another man as a form of foreplay. The question is, would this be something that excited you. I have known guys that had this same fantasy and the never "wanted theirs" just because it would be fair. I have also known women wanted to "share their man" with another woman, but never expect their man to do the same with another man. If it is something that may interest you, talk to him about it. If you feel ground rules are needed, then set them, and be sure it is a man of your choice. It will never be enjoyable if you are not interested in the other man involved.

Answer 10

I wouldn't do it unless it was my fantasy too. I don't think he'll find it all it's cracked up to be if he sees you really enjoy being with the "other" man. If he does decide he wants to be with another woman..well...it is only fair but don't torture yourself into watching if you don't want to..it could ruin everything in your marriage. It's a risk with the other guy too..your husband may just think he wants to see you with someone else.