my best friend got rejected by a guy nearly a year & a half back. but she refuses to come out of that, due to which her studies also suffer. she still keeps contact with dat guy, i have tried making her see sense without success. but she had pulled me into this & because of her i had to suffer a lot. recently i gave her a guy's number who is a frnd of mine, within 5 days she they fell apart due to her fault. but again she keeps calling me at odd hours & pesters me with her problems. she never wants to listen to my problems or what i have to say to her instead its always about her & her problems. she has kinda become very desperate. my other frnds tell me not to mix with her anymore, but because we've ben frnds for a long time its hard to break off with her! what should i do?
2007-07-02 02:33:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Gradually pull away from her; such a clingy friend like her is not a friend to you but more like a parasite. I've had the same experience with a friend I've had for 7 years, and things started to go downhill so I talked to her less and she found other friends really quickly who she was able to transfer all her problems to. All things have to end eventually and if this is damaging your life then you must let it go.
2007-07-02 02:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by classicalgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. that's rough, it is a terrible thing to be rejected , and to allow this to come between her and her studies is awful to say the least. you say that she keeps contact with him ,omg he is really using her and you can't make her see the light wow , have you tried to take her out to night clubs or to singles meeting in your area , or even to Church , there are allot of thing that she could be doing , even helping out at the local thrift stores or socials , anything is better than allowing this to go on, and you should just make plans fro whatever you two can do , getting her mind off of him is not going to be an easy task ,but if you value this friendship then it is going to take a friend to stand beside her to help her along , and a friend that doesn't say negative things , but reinforces her self esteem. so good luck and hopefully she will come out of it ,,
2007-07-02 02:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by southernwildwinds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having a friend just like her. First, tell her your her best friend and you love her, but you want to suggest giving diffrent subjects to talk about. Or, if your sure you dont want to be her friend, make phone calls short. Don't e-mail back and make more friends. Invited you to a party? say you have other plans. She'll soon understand that hint you don't want to be her friend anymore. And, she can't do nothing to stop that from happening.
2007-07-02 02:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by snowangel34543 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would sit her down and tell her everything you just wrote here...say listen "i really like you we have been friends for a long time but you calling me at odd hours with YOUR problems is starting to get old. I care for you but you never seem to take my advise so why are you calling? So until you learn to take advice from your friends, stop calling" but obviously she needs a good friend like you to listen to her but I wouldn't cut off a friendship, just let her know how you feel...good luck!!
2007-07-02 02:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
motives i does not be buddies with somebody: If the guy is a ordinary liar If the guy is an lively member of the KKK If the guy is a damaging member of society who's in basic terms out for themselves and does not care who they injury If the guy is a toddler or animal molester, abuser or killer. I even have standards and everyone who needs to be my pal has to even have standards. there are particular circumstances that persist with to friendship and in basic terms using fact everyone's are diverse does not propose they could't be a robust pal. I even have have been given buddies from everywhere in the rustic and that all of them meet my standards of being a "pal".
2016-10-19 01:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her as a friend that if she doesn't stop being a obsessive,whiny dependent;that not only will she never get a decent boyfriend,she will lose her friends as well.
If she continues to be a toxic friend (all take & no give)let her down gently and suggest she get proffesional help.
2007-07-02 02:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by sugartree2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I would tell the friend that they really need to move on and focus on whats best for her. And I would tell her that you have offered your opionion more than once she don't even try to take the advice, tell her you have a life that you need to focus on too.
2007-07-02 02:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by cabbagepatchgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to give up on a friendship. I think you need to talk to her about this. Let her know how you feel when she does that to you. If she is a true friend she will be open to talking to you.
2007-07-02 02:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her be. Im singel if that guy is still looking.
Realy just give her space dont call her let her call you and tell you are doing just that so she dont think you are avoiding her on purpose Im sure she will be ok.
2007-07-02 02:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by tiana2404 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her... tell her you can handle it anymore tell her friends should listen.... you listened but shes not... tell her shes not acting what a friend should really be.... but dont say it in a bad way since well she did break up with a guy but... mehn its been a year and a half....
2007-07-02 02:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋