Why does getting into another relationship after break up is not good?

Question

I always hear people saying it is not good to go straight into another relationship after break up why isit so... can anyone tell me the reason. Thanks ! If so what is the period of time after your breakup should you then enter a relationship.

Answer 1

It's not good because all of the pain, hurt, problems of the old relationship are still fresh. You then bring all of that baggage into the new one and most people tend to then start projecting that onto the new person, sometimes not even realizing it.

You need to take time to mourn the old relationship. To look back on it, see what you did wrong, own it, make changes, take care of yourself, and make sure you are ready to start new and leave all the old behind.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It all depends. The reason it generally isn't a good idea is because you will still have strong emotions due to the old relationship: regret, love, hate, anger, etc. These will result in people often being blinded by desperation, revenge, or simple frustration, leading to poor decisions being made or emotional baggage that will doom the relationship even if you actually found a decent person. That said, it still depends. Different people will get over a relationship at different speeds, and the circumstances under which the old relationship ended will be a big factor. If you knew the end was coming, you might be better prepared to move on than if your loved one suddenly dumped you out of the blue. In the end, you just need to feel yourself out and proceed with caution.

Answer 4

If the reason would be just to forget the old relationship and therefore just USING a new parther THEN better NOT indeed.I heard it takes HALF time of the relationship to get OVER somebody but in my case was with the ex for about 4 years and NO WAY it took 2 years to get over him,I still kinda MISS him or what we had together I mean. IT also depends if you have KIDS together then the other will always be a PART of your life and ofcourse your age,the younger the more chances for another relationship right. and I believe guys forget so much easier than women or am I wrong.........I mean they can start easily another relationship just after they broke up with ex and kids....we women almost NEVER

Answer 5

Emotions are all over the place. You miss a body next to you, the companionship, the everyday phone calls or talks. It's all missing all of a sudden, and you want it back. Not that you want the person back all the time, but you miss what that person was in your life. When someone else, anyone else, comes along, it feels good to have that again. When you come to your senses, you realize that this new person is really not the right person for you. The blinders are off, and you realize you've rebounded to the next thing. You go into another relationship when you accept that the previous one has ended, and there's no way you will get back together.

Answer 6

Are you healed from it? Can you say to yourself that you have no hard feelings for the person it didn't work out with? I think if you have no bad feelings or pain lingering, then you can pursue somenone else. You don't want a new person to be put through any unresolved negativity of your past relationship, it wouldn't be fair. That wouldn't be a great way to start either, and I think that's why people say to wait. The true timeline for you will only be felt and known by you. Whenever you're ready, go for it! Good luck, I wish you all the happiness in world.

Answer 7

You shouldn't jump into another relationship after one fails. You might still harbor some feelings for your ex which will affect your current relationship. After a breakup you should wait until you don't have any emotional feelings/attachment to you ex boyfriend or girlfriend. Start your next relationship fresh.

Answer 8

If you are in a relationship to be with the other person, it is good.
However, if you are in a relationship just because you want to quickly return to the comfort zone of being in a relationship, it is bad.
Unfortunately, it is very hard to tell the difference if you are the individual involved.
My advise would be to ask a trusted friend what they think of your new relationship.

Answer 9

there is no time put on love. my parents divorced after 20 years and the last year they were sperated but living together, my mom found someone else and moved in with him and got married once the divorce was final. and to be honest, i have never seen her so happy. love is all that matters, after that, everything will just fall into place. and i think people say that because they think u are dependent on others to make u happy and you need the true happiness u give ur self. but it all depends on the situation. but love will always take its own course

Answer 10

it is true that one person should not immediately plunge into a new relationship after break-up because the person with whom you have just broken up his/her memories will haunt you. when you will be with the new person instead of diverting ur full attention to her, u will try to compare her with your ex & try to find similarities. you will never be at ease. you will be at a cleft stick situation when you will want to do things that your ex liked doing with you....and the person who will be with you will probably feel that instead of 2 there are 3 people....which is trust me perfectly eerie!
see, if one wants to get into a relationship then i suggest its just a matter of the heart.......one should get into a new relationship when that person feels that it is the right time......normally 3 months or even 4 is enough to get over the past.