Ok my dad left me and my mom about 1 year ago he keeps telling her "ill come back" but my sister is very close to him ..im not. she tells me shes going to move to cali in 1 year and she said my dad told her he would move over there with her...so hes practically lieng to my mom, getting her hopes high for what? im scared to tell her cause she has heart problems and suffers from bad depression...i dont know what to do!
2007-07-02 02:26:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay out of it... this is their relationship and you are way too involved. Just be ready to be there for your mom when he does make the move. She'll need your support during that tough time.
2007-07-02 02:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. You must do what you think is best for your mother only you know your mom better than anyone on here. Maybe he is telling your mom that because he knows her condition and dont want to tell her he's really not coming back even though it's wrong. I would talk to your dad and ask him why he is telling your sister that, and telliong your mom another thing to see exactly what his motive is, then that might give you your answer on what is best to do
2007-07-02 02:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by cabbagepatchgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally this is what I would do. It may not be the right thing for you, but only you will be able to tell. I would go to my father to ask him why he is telling your mother one thing and the sister another. He may be telling your mother something to keep her hopes up as she is ill. He may be passing certain knowledge on to you in the hopes that you do his job for him and tell your mother. Or even he may not know what he is going to do yet. At any rate, I would talk to him and find out the truth. Then ask him when he plans on telling your mother and then drop it. If that time comes and goes and still he hasn't spoken to your mother, I would then take the responsibility of telling her what he told you as no woman should be waiting and hoping for something that will never be. Just my opinion. Good luck.
2007-07-02 03:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so sorry to hear that , you say he keeps telling her he is coming back , but never does , I think yoUr mom know s he isn't coming back , after a year of being apart , that is the one thing that he has given her , is a year to realize that he is never coming back ,your sis, you say is close to ur father, well tell her what it is doing to your mom and you ,and ask her to tell your mom ,that she is moving , and he is moving there with her , sounds kinda weird also , you never said if she is your half sister or real sister , your mom is a strong woman don't treat her like she is dieing or something, just tell her what you know and let her confront him about it , or if you don't want to do that then confront him your self ,doesn't matter if you are close or not , tell him that you want to know what his intentions are and would like to know if you should plan anything , and depression can be managed by medicine so good luck with it all..
2007-07-02 02:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by southernwildwinds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ari, the best thing that you could do for your mother is to be there for her. She just needs you to be you to offer kindness, comfort, support, and encouragement. I know you want the best for her and you don't want to see her get hurt any more than she already has, but you really don't need to step in and be a mediator, in fact, it would probably be best if you remained as neutral as possible.
I think you are going through a difficult time as well and can use the support of your mother and friends too. Separation and divorce bring a lot of pain into families and I am sorry to hear that your dad left.
I wish you and your mother the best.
2007-07-02 02:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by awesomewoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stay out of their relationship. I know it is hard because you are kinda in the middle, but try your best to stay neutral in this. Don't tell your mom about the things your dad tells your sister. Why is she telling you these things... There might be another reason she is telling you them. Look at a wonderful website I have found it is called coping.org, it has helped me through alot in my life.
2007-07-02 02:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom the truth, honestly brings only good things in the end
2007-07-02 02:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mr S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your parents deal with their own problems. I would stay out of it. Kids should not have to deal with adult issues.
2007-07-02 02:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by melody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am not sue she woud believe you. adn i would try and tel her but i wonder ifshe would believe you. i mean hey it is worth a try she would be glad to know the truth i think if you really know
2007-07-05 15:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋