2007-07-02 02:08:59 · 30 answers · asked by We're Engaged 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Screw the person below me. You have to decide for yourself whats right for you and the child. Don't rush into anything if you're unsure. It'll cause more trouble in the long run.
Good luck!!!
2007-07-02 02:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by shayne w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is entirely up to you two. If you want to get married then go for it but if not then don't. My hubby and I have been together 10 years. We have a 6 year old daughter and have only been married for 2 years..lol We love each other and other than the obvious reasons we got married was it does help with taxes and insurance. Like I said we love each other and plan on being together no matter what. I guess what I am trying to say is that marriage is a personal and as sad as this sounds a financial choice, so do what is best for you 2.
2007-07-02 09:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is that children deserve a sense of permanence and stability.
Not that a relationship can not be solid on its own but the act of marriage denotes a level of commitment that you will work out what ever comes your way and the divorce card will never be thrown on the table as an option.
I realize that most people these days do not see marriage as a permanent and lasting thing but if you are bringing a child into this world as a couple then you must have some sense of a long lasting relationship. Why not make if official.
There are many that believe that marriage is "just a piece of paper" that may or may not "mess up a good thing". I am not one of those people.
I believe marriage is the ultimate commitment and means that you are committing your lives to each other and planning to work out any and all problems together.
2007-07-02 09:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it's not that important. countless relationships in which a child is involved have worked without marriage being a factor. you could do it, but you'd know it was only because of the baby. he should want to marry you on his own. you should both want to marry one another without using the baby as an excuse. you've been together FIVE years, you're pretty committed so i'm not sure why it hasn't happened yet, but i trust that if you wait a little while, things will progress and lead you to the alter when you're meant to. good luck! and congrats on the baby!
2007-07-02 09:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by rubydoobydoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are both love each other, it makes sense to solidify your family by making a commitment to each other. Too many people have a negative attitude towards marriage these days. However, if you are having a child together, that child deserves a stable home, with a mother and father who share a commitment to each other and to the family they have created. Marriage now would be the ultimate celebration of your relationship together and the child you are expecting. Go for it!
2007-07-02 10:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am not going to say yes, and I am not going to say no, there are a lot of people out there who are not married and have a child together, and they are so happy!!!
It is up to you and your boyfriend to decide what you want, as long as your child is going to have both parents, that is the important thing!!!!
Do whatever the two of you feel is right!
2007-07-02 09:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not really but it is up to the individuals. It is not necessary but you probably are going to get married but you have to decide if you want to get married before or after the child is born. Plus, it might be important if you get married later the child can calculate when you guys got married and when you guys had your child. This also shows your child that it is ok to have kids before they wed. But like I said it's up to the individual. Good luck..
2007-07-02 09:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jamezy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend are happy not being married then no I would say it is not important. But are you living together? I think it is important that you should be living together if you are happy and content with that. Getting married is a committment that you and him should discuss and involve yourselves in ONLY when and if you are ready! :-)
Congratulations on your little one and Good Luck!
2007-07-02 09:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think so. I want a bb with my boyfriend and we don't plan on getting married. We've been together almost 5 years...Why mess up a good thing with a piece of paper that says were married....We love each other and that is all that matters. Do what is in your heart!
2007-07-02 09:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The damage is already done but your bf might want to find out what his rights are. If you ain't married he may not have any rights concerning his kid. Even if it wears his name. That's the problem my nephew had . I don't understand why if you love someone enough to live together why not just go ahead and get married?
2007-07-02 09:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by Aunt Doobie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a huge mistake many young people make to marry after pregnancy. Marry him PURELY out of love, not out of obligation too. Move in together instead. (Well, I assume by expecting you mean pregnant.) My parents didn't get married until one or two months after they had me. That is not too uncommon. Talk it over with him too. In my opinion the best option is to move in together so you can be closer, he can help out with the baby, and it will give you guys a chance to see what marriage is like.
2007-07-02 09:13:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋