First let me further complicate the situation by saying that i am a guy, though age has no relevance to the situation. This question concerns my reaction to my girlfriend's checkups. I will start off also by saying that i DO know about how these people are only doing their jobs, to help women prevent potentially dangerous or inhibiting problems. I also do not wish in the slightest for my girl to become in any way sick, i love her very much. anyways, to try to keep this short, despite this knowledge, i cant bring myself to bear the thought of anyone so intimately dealing with my girlfriend or her body. It really bothers me and I dont know if that will ever change, but I dont want to cause any problems down the road. Am i just crazy? Someone please let me know!
2007-07-02 01:56:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
You know, I've never heard this feeling spoken of before, but now that I think about it, I suspect it may be fairly common. It wouldn't surprise me if most men resent the intrusion of a stranger into what he subconsciously considers "his territory". As long as you don't let it stop your girl from getting the health care she needs, I think time will make it easier. If it becomes a really obsessive thing, then you'd need to get some help.
But would you feel the same way about a female gynecologist? If not, maybe your girl could change doctors.
2007-07-02 02:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by mommanuke 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No your not the only one out there that feels that way. I must say you have some insecurity issues though. And you need to think about WHY you feel this way. Think of your past relationships. Did anyone cheat on you in the past? Are your parents still married? Did one parent cheat on the other? First be honest with your girlfriend about your feelings and then ask if she would consider changing her gyno to a female doctor. Although I must tell you that a female doctor my not be the best doctor. I had a female gyno and she really screwed me up on a surgery I had and the male doctor I saw when I was having trouble is the one that fixed me up! It could be that men are so intrigued by the female body that they are just naturally better doctors, because they want to really know who everything works.
2007-07-07 04:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by Laura B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think that only because of the area that is being checked. To you its intimate being that's all you use it for intimacies. To a doctor it has no such affiliation. Its just another organ like the heart or liver. He's not interested in its intimate functions. Once you can differentiate between the two you'll be okay. Its like guys and cars to some guys its not just a car its something special (intimate) to most girls its just a car (a thing to get you from A to B - no intimacies)
2007-07-10 01:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is for her benefit and yours. An ob/gyne is specialized in the woman's body and have seen hundreds/thousands etc.
One of the forms has a question about do you want the nurse in during the exam. I am sure if she allows under HEPPA guidelines you may escort her on her visit. Usually the rooms do not have the space and that could be one reason. Some women prefer this time alone with their ob/gyne to ask questions pertaining to their feelings about their body. A woman wants to get as much info as she can at this visit. Some questions she may want privacy. This subject is between you and her...Give her some space...
2007-07-02 02:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you are crazy? I used to be an exotic dancer, but when I had to go to the gyno for my first pregnancy checkup, I cried! I did not know this guy and yet I was letting him see and touch the most private parts of me! I felt violated! I was so embarrassed.
It wasn't all bad though, he commented on my nipple ring-which I had forgotten I even had, and with the tension lifted I started to see him as a more than just a scary doctor.
2007-07-07 11:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told your girlfriend how much that bothers you? Does it bother her too? Would it bother you less if the gynecologist was a female? There are many female gynecologists so many women have that option to go with one if they want to. I personally feel more comfortable with a female. I'm a 23 year old woman and I had a strong religious upbringing, so I feel a little apprehensive at the thought of a male doctor looking at me down there. I think there are many women who are more comfortable with female gynecologists, and if they are, they should feel free to choose one.
2007-07-02 02:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Grace Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a male doctor maybe the two of you can discuss having a woman doctor, if your gf is ok with it. Some women feel comfortable with a male. But also as much as it doesnt sit well with you, imagine us women having to go through the visit with the doctor, no women I know enjoys it. So try to get through it, worrying yourself over something so petty that happens ONCE a year is not cool.
2007-07-02 02:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not come in the way of her getting check-up or any care. It could save her life> If you love her soooooo much you should be mature enough to understand this and encourage her to go to make sure she is healthy. For most women that is there primary care doctor and so being the check for everything. Like I said if you LOVE her you will make sure she keeps her appointments
2007-07-09 15:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're crazy, but I think you are very insecure, jealous, and immature. Women must be seen by a gyn regularly. He sees women all day, every day. It's a J-O-B to him, and has absolutely nothing to do with sex, nor is it even personal to him. He is simply checking to make sure she stays healthy, does not get cancer for example. Grow up and support your girl. Or maybe you're not ready for a gf if you can't handle this. Talking to another person is more personal than being checked by a gyn.
Blessed Be and may Peace be with you
2007-07-09 07:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are normal, its unpleasant but there you are.
We women dont like the gyne either but the jobs got to be done.
The gyne isn't being intimate, its no different to a mechanic looking for an engine problem, just a lot warmer and gynes get to wear suits.
2007-07-02 02:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by jupiteress 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋