2007-07-02 01:17:45 · 11 answers · asked by kittygirlwhoilove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get counseling if you need it and that is a good thing that you ended it cause it would have cost you in the long run anyway. good luck to you .
2007-07-02 01:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just takes time. And, remember the times that weren't so good also... you may just be remembering how great things were and seeing this a bit skewed. Try to see him as a regular human being who was as flawed as anyone else. Remember some things that were not good and remind yourself that you'd have had more of that to look forward to if you'd continued the relationship. And, if it was a secret affair, remember that it may have been the adreneline from the secrecy that was appealing, and not necessarily this guy.
Also, are you married? You might want to consider how good your marriage is, if you were tempted to have this affair in the first place. Try to put Affair Guy out of your mind and deal with the issues of your marriage for now. Is it worth saving? Is this the life you want to have for the rest of your days? Just concentrate on that for now and put this other person out of your mind. If things were really wonderful with him, you may decide that your marriage really wasn't worth saving, and then you can think about resuming things with him when the dust settles.
2007-07-02 01:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
First thing is that only you knows very well why you did this ? the reasons and related links are correctly knows by you only. If you think that you had taken the hasty decision and you would never want to do that than budy life is always teach us lesson and gives the example and that examples are the experience of once. By time we can say in some situation time is a big factor and which is never come back like a arrow or the spoken words but in your case if you want him back in your life you can always convince him while asking forgive you or tell him that you always want those days back in your life rather you are feeling nevertheless after living him and want to enter in your life once again. And if you think that the life can be lived without him than please let him go if you cant think on the relationship in which you have spend more than 3 years it might be confused you while taking the decisions from other. Be brave and think for what you want.
Wish you all the best.
2007-07-02 01:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By saying affair I take it that either you or he was married? I would say time would be the best thing because if if you or he was married and was having a three year affair then it wasn't right to begin with!
2007-07-02 01:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may seem impossible to forget the great sex and all the fun you had being with this man. but remenber the reasons why you ended this affair in the first place. if this man is married and he cheated on his wife with you that should tell you something. it only shows he can not be the man you deserve to make you happy. move on and believe in yourself and except the fact that you are over him. the relationship is over... (if you really mean you are done and have had enough.) move on girlfriend there are plenty of fish in the sea...
2007-07-02 01:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by ln6143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time you think of him, feel that you miss him, remember why you ended the relationship. This is important. Otherwise you will prolong the heartbreak with the, "but it was good and I love him" sort of self talk. In time, several months to a year, you will be able to look at the relationship objectively. It isn't easy, but we learn from our experiences. Another boyfriend right now, before you heal, would be unfair to both people.
2007-07-02 01:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what took you so long? that's a really long affair, were you waiting for the impossible fairytale ending?
affairs are never good. i'm glad you have ended it for everbody's sake.
focus on you and get your self respect back, get busy, get interesting to know, so much that you find yourself really interesting.
good luck!!
2007-07-02 01:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by sass24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not deny yourself the grieving process.
Allow yourself to accept the loss (regardless of rightness/wrongness of the relationship), it is a loss.
Accept that it's okay to hurt for a time. Adjust your life to go on. Periodically put things in perspective.
I wish you the best.
2007-07-02 04:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by Indy Gentleman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not ever get over it. Find something u like to do and go from there
2007-07-02 01:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by cones2210 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By enjoying the meaning of Freedom and the burden you took from your shoulder, it must be hard but not as hard as breaking. you will forget and make yourself very busy
Goodluck
2007-07-02 01:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by Kamilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋