i am 25 yr female married for 1 yearour marriage didn't worked out.our marriage was gr8 for the first 2 months

Question

then i started working.my husband used to be with his mom till 12.30 to 1.30am.ialso used to company them but it was too much.if i told him to come to his room on time he used to say that he can't live in restrictions.i was not allowed to go to parlours.he opened joint a|c.he used to check my ph in my absence.he used to chat on ph and net but i was not allowed to sit with him.i knew he was chatting but what and with whom i don't know.icame back to my mom's place.idon't know what to do?now icame to know that he is flirting with a girl saying he is unmarried

Answer 1

O.K. Now since your marriage didn't work out & you are already at your mother's home you should think about breaking this marriage by divorce by mutual consent with him, as one year has already passed of this marriage you are legally eligible for moving court for divorce. You must tell him that its time for both of you to dissolve this marriage once for ever & should move joint petition in the family court under section 13-B of the Hindu Marriage Act,1955 as what I can make out you both seems to be Hindu by religion & must have married by Hindu Form of marriage hence this petition lies in this provision, after the expiry of six months time period the decree of divorce will be granted & you will be free to start a new life & get a new matrimonial partner. You can even seek alimony from him either through courts intervention or by mutual agreement between both of you. As far conciliation for such marriage is concerned that is usually done by the family court itself & the period of six month is given for this purpose itself but if such conciliatory proceedings fail the divorce is granted so no need for seeking any matrimonial counselor for this purpose that will be mere wastage of money & time. This form of divorce by mutual consent is the simplest & requires no evidence at all as divorce on any ground such as cruelty etc where you have to produce evidence in the court to prove the ground & get divorce as well waste lot of time may be years together. Hence one should always go in for divorce by mutual consent as far as possible.

Answer 2

counting on what jurisdiction you're in, a "pardon" could be won for marrying and not using a license, and in some jurisdictions, elementary-regulation marriages and marriage via cohabitation and illustration additionally are known. those do no longer require a marriage license. There additionally are some jurisdictions the place marriage licenses do no longer exist in any respect and a marriage certificates is given to the couple after the bridal ceremony had taken place. verify with the officers of the jurisdiction you reside in and that i tremendously doubt that something severe will take place. frequently the state will probable evaluate the marriage invalid otherwise.

Answer 3

You sound like a sweet bright young girl. Why do you need such an experience in life? If you're strong and believe in your convictions and want to be happy, then get a life of your own where you don;t need anyone else unless he needs you as much. Remember - Life is a party. The challenge lies in enjoying the party. So, take some bold decisions and dump the moron. I'm sure there are better guys out there just dying to meet a girl like you.

Answer 4

First of all the chatting is not nothing he is having a fantasy of what your not giving him its just what happens...it will work its self out if you stop and realize that you two need to talk. You MARRIED him...you must love him and he must love you. That's enough to work on what ever else comes along. Don't be so quick to get divorced...people get married too easily now because divorce is SO easy. Marriage is hard and its a lot of work. Open up to him calmly and see what comes next.

Answer 5

one thing u must agree is all of us will want to know what contacts our partner has. but thinking that asking directly may cause the other person to think that v r jealous or possessive, v try to avoid talking abt it. but our curiosity does not stop.
so there is nothing to worry if he checks ur contacts. btw, u also want to know who he is chatting or talking with. so, why feel bad.
some men have lot of love and affection over their mom and try to show them their loyalty by acting to avoid their wife so as to please the mother.
ur husband is also, i guess, doing the same thing.
on ur part, u also ignore this practice of ur husband, u do along with ur own thing, sleep if u want, sit with them if u feel like but not as compulsion.
in marriage or any partnership, the first few yrs. r very difficult for both the persons to learn and adjust to each other bcos both r frm different backgrounds. but running away is not a solution, to face it and make ur rules is what will make u winner and u will have the joy of having a good family.
dont worry b happy!

Answer 6

The point you quoted above requires more attention " he said he can't live in restrictions". I feel you become a little bit of possessive of him. If it is true that is not right. Even if he is your hubby, he is a son, brother, uncle and all. You have to admit this reality first. Your goodness is that you also used to company him in the family gathering. But after? you started to squeeze him for sitting late with the family memebers right?. That made him to say that "can't live in restriction". I am not blaming you. All wives would think and like that her man should be with her always. Okey leave it. Now he check your telephone when you were not ther. So what, if nothing is there for you to be afraid, let him go ahead. You just act like you don't know that. After sometime he will feel tired of doing that unncessarily he will stop that and he will realize that nothing suspecious of you.

Regarding chating, leave it as it is. When he becomes more close to you automatically he will throw out all that. From your side you have to do is a little sacrifice of your ego. Be with him when he is with his family. When you feel tired of sitting, ask to his mother (who is in the gathering) instead of him that you feel sleepy and want to go to bed. That will workout, and she will tell him also to go away.

Sister, it is very easy to join in a marriage contract because the couple have nothing to do, but to obey the parents. But to maintain that contract till the death of either of the parties, it requires, love, understanding, tolerance and overall logic (Yukti). Try to resolve the matter between you that going for divorce driven by sudden temperament

Answer 7

All indications point to your husband being unsuitable for you. Talk to him and ask him about whatever you have heard about his affairs. Demand an honest reply. Ask him if he is prepared to give you a measure of freedom and space at home. If you have satisfactory replies to all your queries, think of continuing with him. Else call off the relationship.

Answer 8

Are you kidding you are in the prime of your life don't waste it on this loser! Leave him with his mother! If you thought he was being sneaky he was. Don't put up with that he will never be there for you when you need him and you are to young. Move on! You can do better! I hope you haven't had children with him!

Answer 9

I'm sorry to say this but get out before it gets any more complicated. Tell him that you can't live with restrictions that he has put you under and do whatever you want to do he obviously so why not you too? Go before you get pregnant and you really do get restricted.

Answer 10

Dear Mohita, your marriage is still very young. Be patient. Your flirting husband will return to you very soon. Give him the best of love you can. Talk to him. Be a good and sexy girl friend to him.... the thing he is looking out for. Have faith in GOD.