I asked this question before and had to add details to it but unfortunately all of the answers were given before that so I'm hoping if you check out this link you may be able to understand what I'm talking about and I appreciate anyone who gives me their take on the situation.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvQOJkfsuBJjjNGsjFH5zd3sy6IX?qid=20070630223200AAHfYab
2007-06-30 20:36:39 · 4 answers · asked by Valrosa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, so you've got to stand by your man while he's having medical stuff done.
I would not stay in that house for all the money in the world. Some hospitals have cots for spouses of patients. See if you can stay there instead.
As soon as he is well, house rules change. I take care of this, you take care of that. And don't remind him. If you're there to save him, he will take advantage of your services. He needs to experience some of the consequences that follow irresponsible behavior.
I have a son identical to this (17) and though he's smart as a whip, remembering his lunch is just not on his list of priorities. We have to tie incentives to his chores so the whole family doesn't get in an uproar over stuff left undone.
I hope you can work it out. Remember, you did know what he was like before you married him...Did you think you could change him after you got married? I understand it's frustrating, but you've either got to get help strategizing or do some research on how to get guys like this moving. Manipulation is now your only tactic left.
2007-07-08 08:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so I checked out your previous question and answers and hope I'm able to offer you some sensible advice. The first thing that comes to mind is that part of the marriage vows that talks about in sickness and in health. It's certainly challenging and unexpected this early in your relationship, but it is the commitment you made and it is up to you to do the best to honor that commitment. Doing so will speak to who you are as a wife and as a person.
I understand that it is difficult. Although you made the vow it is not what you signed up for, but here is where you show your true colors and love for this person.
I don't mean to come off as holier than though; my marriage faces its own difficulties, but I honestly believe that if you do the right thing it will bring its own rewards to you.
I wish for you happiness and love in your life!
2007-06-30 20:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Stay Low 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really a big one on honoring your vows. What you are describing are annoyances not marriage breakers. You say you are at the end of your rope. I can understand being frustrated, but honestly from what you describe I don't see divorce material. Is he cheating on you? Does he abuse you? I really feel people are too quick to run out on a marriage when it gets hard. Marriage isn't easy...it takes work sometimes.
2007-06-30 22:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like what my mom went through with my now ex-stepdad. he just married her to take care of him. now she's living with me and my hubby, which is what we wanted. he will use his illness against you at every turn. walk away. ps. since then, the ex has sworn his mother had a heart attack b/c of my mom, they'd been div. since jan. her attack was last month
2007-07-08 16:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by wendy b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋