I am married since 2 years , I love my wife and she was my childhood love. One time before getting married , I meet other girl , I liked her but not till love . this girl disappeare since that time.
now , she show up again , and she talked to me more than one time , we spoke on special things and she said some love words to me . I also replyed for her by the same feeling. she tried to meet me but I didn't accept that.
We still in contact by SMS with love words but always when I speak to her I think on my wife and I say inside my heart ( I am a bad guy , How I can play behinde my wife while I love her )
So do u thing I cheated on her , and is it good to tell her the truth?
2007-06-30 20:01:09 · 13 answers · asked by C.o_o.L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it is cheating. you dont have to do anything physically to be considered cheating.
2007-06-30 20:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look~ if u love ur wife as u say u do.. then do the right thing.. change ur ph number.. and stop the sms.. and leave the lady alone.. quit tempting Ur self... feeding Ur ego... .. no at this point i would not say it was cheating.. but the first big fight u have with ur wife u will be calling this other lady and it will be cheating at the near by motel 6.. so stop it.. you whole marriage could fall apart .. do u want that?? if ur wife needs to talk into ur ear,,, tell her... u must find this exciting. but it could back fire on u, and what if the other woman calls ur wife becuz u lead her on??? stop it... and after u do.. don't tell the wife u will only hurt her...
2007-07-01 03:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i think that is a form of cheating. but NO, i don't think you should tell your wife. you need to end it with the other woman NOW. do NOT respond to her again, ignore her!! and focus only on your wife, spending time with her, remembering why you love her so much. you shouldn't hurt your wife with this news about the other woman if you genuinely love your wife! it will only make her feel insecure, and very hurt. just never speak to the other woman again...END IT!
2007-07-01 03:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did good in deciding not to meet this other girl and your love for your wife really shows. I'd say that you could let this one slide. You don't need to tell your wife but you do need to stop talking to this other girl.
2007-07-01 03:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you did not cheat, but if you keep talking to the other girl you might cheat. But don't tell wife you talk to other girl, it will only hurt her badly, and she will always remember it. So you need to stop this talking to other girl. You need to tell other girl you love your wife. If you keep talking to this other girl, your wife will find out someway. So you need to put a stop to it now.
2007-07-01 08:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by catira1953 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best plan is to stop communicating with the other woman right away. If you feel the need to tell you wife to get it off your chest then do it.
2007-07-01 05:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your cheating on yourself how are you going to be completley happy with your wife when you are thinking about someonelse, what would u feel if you found out your wife was doing this to you?. The grass isnt always greener on the otherside hun, yourve made youre commitments now stick to it.
2007-07-01 03:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not yet, but it looks like an affair in the works. She is fulfillinf one of your 5 basic needs, that your wife is unable or unwilling to fill. so you feel drawn to her.
best bet talk to wife, and go to counciling.
Read the books below, and God Bless
2007-07-01 03:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sully 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is just stop talking to the other person.
It's a type of cheating, but sounds like you're mostly just playing at it. I wouldn't tell your wife - why hurt her?
2007-07-01 03:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by Judy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are committing emotional infidelity. No you should not tell your wife, why hurt her just to ease your guilty conscience? Stop all contact with this other woman, before you actually commit physical adultery.
2007-07-01 03:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you resolve never to do this again, and take steps to ensure that it never does happen again, then I don't think you need to tell your wife.
2007-07-02 05:05:15 · answer #11 · answered by Dick Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋