About 4-5 months ago my bf left me bcuz he wasn't pleased with the way the house was running . Well now on Thursday he went to work and didnt' come home ! He called me the next day and let me know that he was not going to be returning home. Then today he shows up and says he wants to work it out . I'm confused bcuz we have 2 children together ... 1 and 2 and i have 2 children from b4 but they have been with him for the past 4 years. I feel guilty bcuz i dont' want to deprive them of a family but i dont' wanna look like a fool taking him back either. The first time he left he promised he never do it again and i let him come back , now he's done it again and i know in my heart if he was ever to leave again .... That would be it .... out the door he'll go but for now i just dont' know if i should give it another shot ? All answers are greatly appreciated ... ty in advance ! : )
2007-06-30 19:48:10 · 14 answers · asked by Shannon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well stupied me i've given him another chance .... ya i know what your thinking (lol) she's asking for trouble but i find i'm feeling very differently now. I know why it's happening i'm just not sure that i like it. It's very difficult cuz i dont' feel i can trust his words anymore , i feel like he has totally betrayed me and now i'm almost expecting him not too come home ! Well let me tell ya if that ever does ahppen again ,,,,, HE'S HITTING THE CURB !!! And that will be my final answer . Thank you for all your answers and i look forward to hearing from all of yous again !
2007-07-04 12:49:15 · update #1
if he is really serious about you, coming home and the relationship, he will consider getting counceling, which sounds like part of what he needs. If what he is doing is meeting someone and hooking up with them til he gets tired of them or they don't want him and your the rebound, you don't need that.
My $.02 worth.
2007-06-30 20:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by PolePopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is cheating on you. I would be willing to take that to the bank. And I'm sure it won't be long before he does it again. Yes he's confused alright, you would be too if you loved someone else and have children that you care for at home. It's a tough call for him. And you are letting him make the call and he will leave you again. You should stand up for yourself and your children and stop being treated like a yo yo. It's obvious to me and it should be to you as well. I hope everything works out. Stay strong and don't allow anyone to walk over you and your children. I know it's tough to be on your own but millions of women do it each and every day. You can do it!
2007-07-08 10:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by missnasa2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every mother wants their children to grow up seeing a healthy romantic r'ship so they know what love is SUPPOSED to look like. I'm sure you're not different. The fact is, kids learn more from what you DO then from what you say. Is this really the kind of guy you want your girls to grow up to be with? If the answer is no, then I think you have your answer. Just having ANY man around is not the best thing. Having the RIGHT man around is. Don't take back this chump just b/c you feel guilty for not giving them a male figure to have around. It's better to have no example than a bad one. This back and forth you two are doing is causing them instability as well. You need to dump him and look for someone who can commit and who will be a wonderful father.
2007-06-30 20:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. It's all when you decide enough is enough. My fiance and I have broken up/gotten back together for 3 of the 5 years we've been together. Things either work themselves out or you move on. We have a little girl together and I think she has changed things...not brought us closer together but has just made us realize that all the fighting was getting old. This is a decision you and only you can make. Good luck!
2007-07-06 03:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by JennB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if some lie to you once they will lie to you all the time kids never hold you because you will just be unhappy i always tought that my kids were the way to keep the man but its not dont take he back you want to be happy not in pain you can find some that is so much better trust me i had the same prolem i found a man he is the greates person we have been married for two years and togetre for four so look out there you wil find someone
2007-07-08 02:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by mirendaocasio@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exaclety what you are going through my husband left me yesterday to well hes on a break. I think you bfr is a poop head for not giving you the respect by coming home and telling you instead leave you sat worried about where he is total lack of responsability. Please dont be together for the children they will be aware of any bad feelings in the household put yourself first what do you want to happen your children will be happy when you are hunnie. Best of luck
2007-06-30 20:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh Hello!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????? Move on! if he's left you twice he'll do it again. And don't use kids as the excuss....it doesn't do them any good being in an unstable household with 2 parents that come and go. It's better to be stable and alone than unstable with someone else!!!!!!!! You need to concentrate on raising your children. You should have no time in life to worry about a flighty man. Those kinds of guys don't make good family material....the are what prevents it!
2007-06-30 20:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by mrsprincess07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you should kick him to the curb I know its hard but you and the kid dont need that crap no other shots hell only keep doing the same crap and you to good for that so say good bye and mabey youll find a real man one day some one who wont put you and the kids last so good luck and take care
2007-06-30 19:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by spankystrouble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him this is the finial straw if he walks out one more time its over and you totally wont take him back anymore. MAke sure its clear to him
2007-06-30 19:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by filipino_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE WANTS HIS FREEDOM AND WANTS TO DUMP THE CRAP AND RESPONSIBILITIES ON YOU, HE'S NOT A MAN. CHANGE THE LOCKS AND TELL HIM WHEN HE FINDS OUT WHAT A MAN IS..THEN CALL AND LET YOU KNOW, AND TELL HIM HE MIGHT WANT TO FIGURE IT OUT BEFORE YOU GO FOR SOLE CUSTODY OF THE KIDS. EVER HEARD OF LAY IN THE BED YOU MADE? MEN HATE THAT DON'T THEY?
2007-06-30 19:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋