the truth. you find out that he brought her to your house and had sex with her there. you already know he slept with her, but not at your house he also claimed he had sex only one time, but you find out its more. Would you be mad at him for not telling the truth. do yo think you would have the right to be mad, or should he be mad at you for digging for the information? Should you have just let it go? Anyhow , I dont know let me know what you think!!!!
2007-06-30 19:33:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course you have a right to be mad.Your husband cheated on you four years ago but wasn't man enough to tell the truth.When these things are first talked about the truth doesn't come out right away but four years is stretching it a bit far.This puts you back where you were four years ago.Most answers here say you should have left him back then.Good on you for choosing not to.Don't worry about the digging,why shouldn't you.Hes the one that screwed around after all.But I think now might be the time to get some help,not only for your marriage but for you as you need some closure.Good luck to you
2007-06-30 20:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Charlotte's Dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I was in a similar situation. No, he shouldn't be mad for digging because he was betraying her. And yes, she should be mad for not being honest, in fact, he he wants her trust and she knows something it would be best to come clean and answer whatever questions she has so that trust can start soon.
The point is, he violated that marriage. If he wants to repair the marriage he should not be upset with the way She found out or how many questions she askes.
2007-06-30 20:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have all the details but based on your question. do u have kids together? is she still in the area? can u forgive him regardless? r u going to move forward or torture the guy forever? If u dug anywhere in your home or car and found anything, I say u were in your rights!! if he didn't want u to no he would of destroyed the evidence... OK , now u no.. now what? u love him? yes, have kids? yes. then go get counseling and work it out, You may no be able too anyway.. U have been lied too and deceived by the man u thought u knew.. he is not who he portraited to be.. and that is the hardest thing for anyone to forgive and move on... !!!!! no kids, no love, then walk out... now, save ur self more pain with this person... no money or love can keep u from wondering if he will do something like this again...
2007-06-30 19:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were going to do some digging, why didn't you do it 4 years ago when it really mattered?. Why leave it go until know to do the digging?, unless you have an idea he's up to no good again. You either have to let it go now or sit down and say that your very disappointed in him for lying and therefore you are going to find it very difficult to trust him from now on, unless he can prove to you he is behaving. Only you can make the decision. Cheers and good luck.
2007-06-30 19:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! he has no right to be mad that you where looking! He had no right to be unfaithful! Obviously you felt there was a need to do some research or you would have let it go! No I wold be flamed!!!!!! I would probably leave him since he wasn't truthful about his rendezvous. I like that! If he is honestly mad at you for digging, then he's trying to shift blame....be careful! Once a cheater...
2007-06-30 20:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by mrsprincess07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right as his wife to find out every detail of his adultery. You also have the right to find out exactly what he is doing right now. Check his emails, his IM's and chat rooms and websites he visits. Monitor the phone bill. Of course he will get mad he wants you to think it is your fault he did this very wrong thing. You should be livid about the whole thing. You also have the one reason God gives for divorce. So you also have that option.
2007-06-30 19:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have left him the minute I knew he cheated. But since you didn't, I don't think you can go screaming at his lying, cheatin', a$$ now!! If it's bothering you that much, maybe sitting down and try to have a calm disussion about it. Yeah, he will prolly get mad....then you pack his suitcase and put him and it out the door and find someone who will treat you better.
2007-06-30 19:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by ladyaleyth34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the absolute right to be mad at him. He not only cheated on you but had the nerve to bring her under your own roof. It is good that you found out the whole story, but you need to let it rest if you have forgiven him. He should no better next time.
2007-06-30 19:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by Bantree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's 4 years old. If you haven't left him over it yet, what's the use of digging it up? Being honest with him is being the bigger person though so tell him what you found and see what he has to say.
2007-06-30 19:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by Blue Love Aura 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you joking???? If you think your husband is cheating, your entitled to find that info anyway you want. He's a liar and a cheat.....gee, does that make you mad??? I guess not enough....my bags would be packed, and my lawyer would be going over his financial portfolio by the end of the week.
2007-06-30 20:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋