What would you say if a 17 year old girl wanted a baby?

Question

If her and her BF were finacialy stable((the girl and boy both had jobs that pay more than minimum wage)), had there GED's, there own home w/ each other ect.

After watching the movie 'Knocked Up' I want one even more! I'd still work after I had the baby and we live w/ my sister since her husband left her when he found out she was pregnant w/ a girl... She has thee children, ive babysat the youngest ((14 months)) since she was born and get up in the night with her and have pretty much been her second mother. I know how tough it is. And I am up to the responsibility.

Ok people really need to stop saying I need to go to college. I work @ a credit union and love my job! I have NEVER wanted to go to college! I would have to go to a community college anways becase I take care of my neice but all the community colleges where I live royally suck.

Answer 1

Id say that would be fine I was 16 when I got pregnant and had her when I was 17 now I have a lovley nearly 3 year old girl and im pregnant again due in 13 days and im 20.So I think its fine If you want to have a baby

Good Luck!

Answer 2

I would say that you are unconciously searching for that something missing in your life. I was the same as you at 17. Since i can remember, all i have ever wanted was to have my kids. I dreamt of being nothing more than a mother, and longed to just have my own kids. Just like some people are career minded, some travel, some do whatever else. I was just family minded and wanted babies! I fell pregnant at 19, me and my boyfriend started trying and within a month i was pregnant. As soon as i found out i was having a baby it was like something mustve clicked inside of me, i matured so fast.. and everyone else could see it too.
I can tell you that having a baby has been the best thing for me, it really has. It has been the best thing that i have ever done and im the happiest that ive ever been. I love my little man to bits, he is my whole world and i love it.
If you are ready, then this could be the best thing for you aswell.. the right thing for you. Some people just dont understand how people can be so young and have children, BUT, everyone is so different and have such different goals in life and some are just meant to be Mothers. Thats how it was for me. Dont get me wrong, they are so much work and there is no going out on weekends or partying with your friends, your life stops at that moment you find out your pregnant and its all about that baby growing inside of you. It is a beautiful thing and if thats what you want to do then thats fine. Your life will turn out the way its supposed to. Its fate. Goodluck with your decision, its a big one but i think you will make the right one =)

Answer 3

Do not count on the BF to stick around. Plan on staying home and raising your child. Do not expect anyone to babysit. Do not expect anyone other than the parents (not grandparents) to finicially contribute to this child. Do not expect to go out anymore, other than to work. I had a child at 22. Looking back now, way too early. I had nothing going for me other than a job that paid more than minium wage. It has taken me 12 years to get what I have now (things that most people had by the time they were 25) and I had to do it all the hard way. Be 17, enjoy it now, because once you have a child, those carefree fun days are over. Nothing is ever the same, and your life is no longer about you, its all about the child. There is nothing more expensive and time demanding than a child. Wait until you can handle things on your own, because, unfortunatly, if/when your BF walks out the door, your the one doing everything.

Answer 4

I would tell her to enjoy her time while she is young, and to enjoy their lives as a couple for a few years before having children. It is a strong natural drive to have kids, but once you become a parent you will always be a parent. There are so many things that are wonderful to experience when you are young, like travelling, spending special time with your husband, etc. Women change so much during this time period, it is better to get to know yourself before you start looking at bringing another life into the world. I wanted a baby so badly at this age, and I didn't actually have one until I was 27. It was a blessing to have waited, and I can't even imagine having had a child so young now. Not that I'd not have been a good parent then, but I'm very much a better parent now for the things I've learned, experiences I've had, and just for knowing myself and who I am. This doesn't mean you have to wait until your 27 or older, but I'd definitely wait a little while. I'd also make sure that her and her BF were truly committed to one another. If they are, I'd question why they have not formally committed.

Answer 5

If that's what you really want OK, but why so young ? I LOVE my children and have always known I would have a family and kiddos but I tell you WHAT if you really think your ready try again. No matter how much you want it or think you can handle it it's just not the same as when it happens. It's a fun, exciting, loving, wonderful thing but it's a never ending battle of good and bad every day all day. It can wait and you will be just as happy later as you would if it happened now. Give yourself some time and late night talks with yourself. Because when it does happen it's FOREVER. It's the best greatest challenge in your life. Found the adult in you first not the young adult that 17 really is. After being one for a couple of years it really broadens your horizons and it will really be worth it. Sow those OATS first!!!

Answer 6

That she should go to a hospital and volunteer in the nursery for a few months and see what hard work it is. At 17 there is a fantasy for many young girls that the baby will be fun and it is - but it is also so much work they are rarely prepared for. I would highly recommend she take every step to educate herself even taking child care classes in a community college before she makes such a huge commitment - motherhood is a life sentence.

Answer 7

Crazy - I’d ask why they don’t just want to enjoy being young for a while, enjoy the end of the teen years. I also ask what in their mind is finical stable i just find it hard to believe that two 17 year olds are that well off even they have jobs that are above minimum wages. No college education. Don't get me wrong a GED is better then nothing.

Answer 8

If its what they want then i'd say go for it...But it will definately make each ones life much harder then i would think most 17 year olds are ready to handle...Plus it can ruin future plans and dont forget with that baby on the way say goodbye to one of you having a job unless you got someone to watch your kid...and if your option was daycare you can still pretty much say goodbye to one job cuz its expensive as hell...Your life will be VERY hard...Life is short and you have all the time you need before having kids...Have fun while your young and have kids later.

Answer 9

please, please wait until you're older. you're going to make life really hard for yourself if you decide to have a baby. NEVER forget the importance of having a solid education. here's my advice: go to college, get an education, and then when you're older you can have a kid if you want. besides, you're going to be busy taking care of your sister's kids. and by the way, are you telling me you're so dumb that watching some badly made comedy is making you want to have a baby? no offense, but i have a feeling that in a few years you'll be struggling to pay the bills and struggling to take care of a kid that you decided to have because of some movie. give me a break, and forget about having kids for at least another ten years.

Answer 10

If you are 17 and want a baby, then how come you answered my question telling me how you always got called a wh*re because you were pregnant at 16 and that now you are 22 and have 2 boys and work at Red Robin? Grow up a little before you try to raise an innocent child. And please do go to college, because obviously you are not that smart.