I have been married for almost four years. I love my husband, but his ex and kids are awful and really make me miserable. I have tried everything to work this out and gone to counseling. I just can't see myself here foerver. I have health problems and alot of stress and this is not helping. I just don't know what to do. I didn't get married to run out , but this situation is almost too hard.
2007-06-30 18:43:49 · 10 answers · asked by socalgal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If they are making you miserable, it is his job as their father/ex-husband and as your husband to make it right. He needs to lay down the law with all of them. Even in a Biblical sense, let alone an emotional sense, his wife should be his #1 priority. Has he done anything to help with this situation? If so and if it did not help, you two might want to consider moving. If his ex and children are that cruel, then they are not worth being around anyway. If he has not, then talk to him and tell him that if he does not take control, you have no choice for the sake of your health to leave. Always try to save your marriage, but there are times I do realize when you have to think of yourself first.
2007-06-30 18:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by tired 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How can you say his kids are awful? Could it be that you were disillusioned in the beginning, and thought that becoming part of an existing family would be a happy, smooth transition? Before calling his kids names, imagine what this is like for them. Why don't you try looking for positive ways to improve your relationship with your husband and your children, and stop playing the victim? You might feel better.
2007-06-30 19:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What does he do to support you when the ex is causing you heart ache? He also should demand that his children show you the respect that you are hopefully earning. You said you've been to counselling- has he gone with you?
Not enough info to say more, but I hope you find a way to work this out.
2007-06-30 18:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way you can seperate yourself from the ex? To help with the kids, give them lots of positive attention. If they start acting like their normal bad self, just turn your direction away, perhaps to another child. Eventually they'll be more respectful.
2007-06-30 19:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Love Aura 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out now! Or tell his kids and ex this is the way it is and they will treat you this way or there is the highway. Let your husband know to back you up on this all the way.
2007-06-30 18:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by wow one 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If nothing is changing then you need to put yourself first for health reasons. Your husband has to see what it is doing to your health.
2007-06-30 18:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lynnae_1969 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What in blue blazes is his ex doing there? His kids? Yikes you are odd man out. Sounds to me like he just wanted a lodge for his pole. Get out. Get out now.
2007-06-30 18:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by bigmatlem 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
What is your husbands' problem? Does he enjoy seeing you in misery or is he in denial? Don't let his ex and kids rule your life. Get rid of them and him!
2007-06-30 18:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
That's exactly why you shouldn't marry a person who is divorced.
2007-06-30 19:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you communicated this WITH HIM? Not us. And what does he say? You don't give much detail.
2007-06-30 19:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋