I'm only in my early twenties but i feel so different compared to my friends. I'm not like your typical college student who just wants to party, go clubbing, and get drunk all the time. I'm sooo focused on just getting my degree really bad. I want to make something out of myself. My friends tell me to cute loose b/c i'm "young" but if i keep on tract and graduate, by then, i'll STILL be "young". I just feel that the party scene is just "stupid" and I don't want anything to do with it until later...when i'm settled as far as my job and as a person. They'll say "school is important" but it's pretty "even" for them...the thing is, you're in college now...i don't want to end up those people that are in college forever and just switches majors just to get "done" with school. I see myself (hopefully) graduated out of my major in 2 years and that's when i'll "celebrate"...i feel like that's when it's really worth partying. My older cousins have such an influence on me. They've told me that the "21" phase is expensive and gets old quickly. I'm in the phase where all my friends are turning 21 and it's the "coolest thing" in the world. I know i'm not 21 yet but i look at them as such morons...it reminds me of when we were all in high school and it was a big deal turning 16 b/c that was when you got your license.
What's wrong with me? Why am i like this?
2007-06-30 18:34:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it's just hard...and i feel the pressure :(
2007-06-30 18:45:00 · update #1
You may be a little sheltered, but only if you can't watch cartoon kissing in Disney movies. You're totally fine. You are a strong woman who doesn't want to screw up her life with random men, alcoholism and possibly death by illegal drug intake. True, not everyone who parties is like that, but I've had enough neighbors in college to be annoyed with the loud music, crazy outside parties and trashed yards to support a nice get together with friends but boycott college parties in general. You are just fine. I was the same way, you just have your own ideas and you're not one to be swayed by peer pressure. Stay strong!
2007-07-01 08:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by Agent D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to not enjoy getting drunk and hanging out with a bunch of drunken idiots. It was never my scene. And those who jump into it usually lose interest very quickly. Do what you want to do and don't worry about what other people are doing or not doing.
But keep this in mind. I have been the nose to the grindstone type. I see a goal and I put on blinders and honker down and work my butt off to get there. But over the years I have seen less hardworking people surpass me by networking and making friends. Remember that hard work is just one tool in the toolbox for reaching goals, you should learn to use as many as you can.
2007-07-01 01:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is how one of my friends were in highschool, calm, cool, and collected. Did not party, nothing. Once they graduated they just went CRAZY, drinking, parties the whole nine. But they did graduate in the top of the class. What I'm trying to say is, graduate the top and then if you feel like it go hang out and have fun, dont go crazy though. You are just on track and know what you want, just keep your head straight. Nothing is wrong with you.
2007-07-01 01:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by Heather H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing's wrong with you. I'm pretty much the same way. I get along better with people that are older than me. I think some college students are immature, and I don't believe in the "college experience" that everyone likes to refer to. That being said, when I'm 21 I'm sure there will be more partying for me.
2007-07-01 01:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey don't let anyone try to influence you to party. You are very smart to want to get your life in order before you do the party thing. I give you all the credit in the world. I wish that all students feel like you do. Keep up the good work and follow your heart. God Bless.
2007-07-01 01:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep doing what you feel is right for you. Obviously the way you are doing things is the right way for you. Some other people may need to party now just the same as you need to be serious about things. I don't think anything is wrong. People are different from each other.
2007-07-01 01:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by the Boss 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeahh, its no big deal much better to focus on getting your degree. I turned 16 8 months ago and it wasnt that big of a deal so I image 21 isnt as kool as they say. Much better 2 get ur degree then get drunk and fail and end up with no degree and a huge loan.
2007-07-01 03:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing's wrong with you. You're just mature for your age. You already know what your priorities are, while most people your age are still on the immature side and think life is one big party.
Don't worry, they'll eventually grow up and catch up to you ;-o
2007-07-01 01:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by PJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo thats totally cool, you got to be true to yourself and do what you want to do...don't let not partying bother you, its your choice so there isnt nething wrong with you...my suggestion is pick a time...like once a week, or once every two weeks and just go out and have fun - it'll help keep yourself in check with the good stuff in life while not controlling your life
2007-07-01 01:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by Joey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're definitely smart. Good on you for staying on track and not giving in to peer pressure!!
2007-07-01 03:31:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋