2007-06-30 18:25:53 · 67 answers · asked by enki 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I do. I think everyone should be blessed with at least one do-over. And since I've always wanted one before and never really had it, I'm really glad I didn't use it up. I really want one now.
2007-06-30 18:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 4⤋
It depends on what they did and what their potential to screw up again. For instance, if someone was pet sitting my dogs and I came home to find them malnourished and dehydrated because the sitter didn't do what she promised to do.... then NO, she does not deserve a second chance.... my dogs deserve better and I wouldn't put them at risk just to give her the benefit of doubt. On the other hand, if I paid her to wash and wax my car and she missed a spot, I'd most likely give her a second chance to get it right.
As for relationships: a second chance following infidelity would depend on many factors. Largely, how much time is invested in the relationship. For instance, there was a time I would NEVER tolerate it even once. But after 21 years of marriage..... hmmm..... that's a lot at stake. (However, even if I tried to stay in the marriage, I might not be able to do it because trust is such an important thing, and I don't know if I could get past his cheating-----and THAT could cause the destruction of the marriage). Infidelity while I was dating someone???? Done. End of story. Been there, done that. If someone cannot be true to me while dating...I'm not going to take a chance with a marriage.
It's all relative.
2007-07-01 01:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every chance is a first chance, there are no seconds at chance. Experience adds responsibility, and we begin anew. The only way forward is with the first step, one foot in front of the other. By the way you never said that the chance involved offence. We get chances at all sorts of things, each step a new step building on what went before. Some things should not be done a first time. When you're hit by a train it's not the caboose that does the damage. When does one learn to be careful of trains? Do not all things in life deserve care? We inevitably live up to or down to expectations.
2007-06-30 22:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by Fr. Al 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserve another chance - not just a second one. We all are making mistakes. Nobody is perfect. I also believe the person who gets the chance has to take the challenge and do better with the second chance. With other words learning is on the board if you want the second chance.
2007-07-06 00:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by zabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does everyone deserves a first chance?
Yes, many don't get a chance at all.
Does everybody deserve a second chance?
Yes, but they waiste it.
Does anyone has the right to decide if you deserve something?
No, but everyone acts like they do.
2007-07-05 02:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ben Benjamin Benny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not everybody, but yes, most people, because people will change. So, in essence, if you're giving a second chance to a different person, you're giving a first. Deserving-ness of second chances depend on the time, too -- they should be given when that person is ready for them, when they have changed for the better.
No matter what someone might have done -- murder, rape, anything -- we humans are capable of changing, under the right circumstances. Of course, this is a bit idealized -- in real life, it wouldn't be practical to give everyone in jail a second chance -- but I do believe most of us deserve it.
2007-07-01 14:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by muddy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not murderers, or child molesters, or rapists! For the little things that can be corrected, or forgiven, I'd say yes!
At the doctor's office yesterday, I read the nicest article by a mother of an eight year old!
She was trying to work out a way to teach him how to fix the things he was doing wrong! And the mother was tired of yelling at him! Well, at the time she was watching "Groundhog Day', with Bill Murry! and she came up with a 'groundhog'! Every time the little boy made a mistake, he would be given a 'groundhog' where he could "redo it' and get it right!
She said her little boy loved the idea! the biggest thing he was doing was slamming the front door, when he came in! So he practiced closing the door quietly, over and over, until he could come in, and not slam the door!
Well it works for everyone! I snapped at my daughter last night, and I asked for a 'groundhog' ( I'd told her about the article earlier)! She grinned and said 'Sure, you can! Well, we had our whole conversation again, this time without me hurting her feeling! It felt great!!
Try it, it really, really works!
2007-07-05 16:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by jaded 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Enki of course :))
I feel in life like when I hear people tell me stories and I hear about marriages where one spouse cheats and sometime the other spouse will take them back it happens and the couple stays together or they get divorced right away..it depends on the person and what they tolerate in their lives. When you see that a person can not be trusted by their actions you move on as simple as that. I try to be fair I give that second chance by threes times and your out hahaha. There was this Broker I worked for years ago and he was a jerk saying he would pay me more for all the work did instead in stringing me along and in the end I went to management and he was without a sales assistant for two months, nobody wanted to work for him but I learned alot I was in my early 20's and took advantage. I think that you just have to be aware and understand peoples intentions and if you see time again they continually string you along and are not fair cut them off you do not need negative people in your life if you have the freedom to grow and find something better....everyone deserves a second chance I had a big fight with a good friend of mine after an event in the city I felt she not supportive and judging me I went out with this guy once and he turned out to be a jerk anyway I got upset and then the next day my Step-father brother said you will lose a good friendship over a petty disagreement it is not worth it and in the end I picked up that phone and things are fine.. you have to know whats worth giving a friend a loved one a business associate a second chance in life ultimately how much you value that relationship and what it does for your life is the Ultimate message I do not like to hold grudges or be angry and hurt for too long life is to short and their is so much hatred in this world that we need just to let people be and not judge or tell them how to be if they are in your life they should love you for you and not what you should or will become that is a good friend with the good and the bad they will be there in life..........peace out my buddie Enki Binki :)))
2007-07-01 05:04:36 · answer #8 · answered by Rita 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
it depends on what they did..for the most part, i think not. the guy who raped me got a second chance and then he raped 2 other girls (one was 12)... some people will take that second chance and make a difference but some will take it and then need that 3rd and 4th and 5th chance. I have given way too many 2nd chances in my life to people who did not deserve it but who am i to judge, right?
2007-06-30 23:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by who are you anyway?? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but if an individual chooses not to offer a second
chance then they must also be willing to close off
a section of their mind. If an individual doesn't feel
safe and/or comfortable giving a second chance then
they shouldn't feel forced to endanger themself.
Also, denying a second chance shouldn't be the
same as becoming intolerant. In other words,
the denier is within their rights to ignore the
individual, but not necessarily within their rights
to repress the individual.
2007-07-01 02:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by active open programming 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what they have done and even if they are forgiven, the offenses that happened will not be forgotten and would stay in the minds of the victims for the rest of their life.
It's very hard for me to do so and trust that person again even If I have forgiven them.
And certainly will be much tougher for them as everyday in their life they will be remembered and I believe reminded of their mistakes and have to work harder to earn anyones trust again.Perhaps their whole lifetime///
If anyone is facing death or given prewarning of it, that's a different matter altogether and it is up to God to decide....a second chance??
2007-06-30 23:21:57 · answer #11 · answered by curiouscarp88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋