Respect or disrepect when it comes to a relationship?

Question

Respect or disrepect when it comes to a relationship?

a man has done or said a few things to me. i am curious -- am i soft hearted or is he really rude and disrespectful?

1- jokes 4 or 5 times about my appearance- skinny, bony, look like a stick person, anorexia- says he is just joking-

2- stares at almost every female up and down twice and doesn't even hear what i have just said- but knows what they have said

3- tells me to get to the point faster then he would listen to my conversations- but then says he enjoys hearing me talk

4- tells me i am attractive and is affectionate, but plays games when it come to showing he cares

5- says he likes to be in control during sex and that shouldn't offend me. he says he doesn't mind me being on top, feels ok

6- he hates when i just don't say goodbye and hangup. he tells me asking when willl i hear from him again or if i tell him when i will call him it drives him up the wall and drags the conversation on.

is it him being rude or is it me

Answer 1

I hate to break it to you, but he is being a butt.....he is being very disrespectful, self centered and selffish. It sounds like he is only worried about himself and he could give a care less about what you say or how you feel. If I were you I would sit down with him, tell him how you feel, and ask that these things change or you are stepping. I am positive there is someone out there who will give you the attention you deserve and who would love to talk to you and spend time with you.

Answer 2

It is not you! It's definatly him, yes he is very rude and very disrespectful!

number 2 and 6 is what really gets me. First of after reading this I think I can safely assume that you are dating and should be in a close relationship? Well in any relationship close or not you don't make it a habit to stare at all the pretty girls that walk by.
and I would think he'd be happy too see you again, not tell you that all he wants is just a goodbye.

sorry but to put this very matter of factly all it seems your guy really wants is booty call.

my advice, leave as fast as you can, because you can do much better.

best of luck!!

Answer 3

Oh my gosh...is this the same guy I am dating? (or wait, I just dumped him!) Sounds like the same disrepectful a$$ that I just got rid of. Except the one I was with, he commented on the fact that I was 5 pounds too heavy and I didn't work enough to his liking (I am a full-time University student that works part-time doing mostly overnights...how many other people can handle that kind of schedule). There were a whole bunch of other things too like he never wanted to spend time together, and talking on the phone more than once a week was 'too much'. Listen to me, get out while you still can. There are other guys out there that will treat you like a human...

Answer 4

1 & 2 -Disrespect-No point about it. Would be a major obstacle of a healthy relationship, others can be worked on.

Answer 5

You know the deal or you would never have asked this question. This guy is a loser. The real question is why you allow this in your life. Your question trully is more about how you value yourself. Get this straight or you will go from one loser to another.

Answer 6

I think in your heart, you already know the answer to this one. If the things he does bother you, you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with him. If he's not willing to listen or make compromises, then it's time to find someone who makes you happier.

Answer 7

i think it's him being rude.....i wouldn't put up w/ it. I put up w/ someone like that for 4 yrs and got out b/c of all of it wish you luck

Answer 8

Sounds a little passive agressive.
Does he make you happy? If not, then he's not worth your time.

Answer 9

you already know the answer