We been married for more than 30yrs I found out last Nov that he has been calling her and her call him on his cell phone He told me they were just friend But Told him friends don;t call each other three and four times a day and keep it a secreat. He would go out side to have cig. and talk to her on the phone . Because we desided no smoking in the house any more. I confronted him about it told him he had to stop. well it hasn't and I don't know what to do. He says he loves me but I don't know any more. Need some to talk to Help
2007-06-30 16:13:24 · 13 answers · asked by mint7426 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl!!! I have gone through the same thing, an he says she is just a friend, also that he loves me and not to worry....so time went on and he would have me listen to some of the messages she left. The final straw was some of her friends confronted him and asked what his intentions were, right then and there he stopped the relationship...to a certain point...told them off and that if they can't take that he is just a friend than to step off. Give him a little lee way, if you don't ride him so much, it could taper off...
let me tell you when she first started calling him it was like 5 times a day, he cut that off too...they talk occasionally now, and I know for a fact to this point that she is waiting for him...when I'm dead....or whatever!!! I assure you if you and your husband have been this strong for so long 30 years....wait it out, it might just be a bit of a phase,,
God Bless You and yours!!
2007-06-30 16:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by SuasGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know the truth already, he is cheating on you. He has no business as a married man, talking to another woman like that. If he won't stop, leave him or kick him to the curb. He is totally disrespecting you. Of course he will say, we are just friends, he isn't going to admit anything else, cheaters always lie. Married men don't have women friends like that, because it is cheating. Don't put up with it for another minute. You don't deserve this abuse. Stand up for yourself, go talk to the divorce lawyer today.
2007-07-01 10:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did he meet her? On the internet? At Work? You can bet your hiney that if they are talking its not much more time before they get together for Sex.You may not be able to make him Stop, but you can get him out of the House and move on with your Life and a good man.. If you are not worth him giving up this other Woman for, then hes already Gone..
2007-06-30 23:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you need to discuss this with him again and stress the importance of the trust between the two of you...Tell him that this ongoing friendship is hurting your relationship. If this is a person that he sees at work, then he can talk to her during work hours. I would tell him that these phone calls are ruining his marriage and they need to stop becuase you are feeling hurt from them. See what he says to that...
2007-06-30 23:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to get to the bottom of what's going on there. It's not right for him to keep that a secret and why would he have to if they are really just friends. He's being very disrespectful.
Good luck
2007-06-30 23:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he would feel if you were talking to another guy in private several times a day. Give him the option of ending the "friendship" or the marriage.
2007-07-01 02:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by foreverhoyt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first you should not rouin 30 years of marrige just like that so take things in a calm way then you should call the girl and talk to her as a friend and see her intensions with ur husband then take things from there
2007-06-30 23:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am married and have several male friends. thats all they are FRIENDS. maybe she is just that.
what worries me is he kept it a secret. why? my husband knows about my friends, one of them he is jealous of, says he doesnt trust him, but i always tell him we spoke any way.
that seems kind of sneaky to me.
my husband asked me not to talk to this one friend, i refused, he was there for me years before my husband and has always stood by my side when i needed him. he is getting used to him being in my life, but still not comfortable.
good luck, i truly hope your husband only has friends like i do not FRIENDS like so many others do.
2007-06-30 23:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by rachael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if they were just friends, which I highly doubt, he is being very disrepectful to you by continuing the phone calls. Trust your instincts.
2007-06-30 23:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you he would not be talking to her and keeping secrets from you. Kick his a** out.
2007-06-30 23:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋