...but I really don't want to now. I'm almost 17, and my parents have given me permission to go because there aren't going to be any parents there. I don't want to go because I found out that they're bringing tons of alcohol and drugs but I obviously don't want to tell them that's the reason for cancelling. Can anyone help me think of an excuse to tell them why I can't go?
2007-06-30 16:10:39 · 34 answers · asked by tulip987654321 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
suddenly fall ill, fake it.
2007-06-30 16:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by All Of the Above 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're not gonna tell them the real reason why, then just tell them you changed your mind you don't want to go. Or lie and say that your parents found out that there is gonna be drugs and alcohol there so now you can't go. If you don't want to do that I think someone said to say that relatives are coming in to town, that is a good one, or you can see if you can visit some out of town relatives the same week as your Friends. Then that way you still get to take a trip.
2007-07-07 07:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Miss 6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friends you will go, but that you will not be doing drugs and alcohol. If they reject you for this reason then tell them you won't be going. My guess is that they will respect your decision to do only what you want to do. These are your friends! You must know that they engage in such things! GO! It doesn't mean YOU have to do drugs or alcohol. Friends are the most valuable and lasting thing in the world. True friendships last a lifetime, even longer that some marriages! Unless your friends are true deviates, you should go and be with them, and have fun, as long as they respect your wishes not to do these things, you are OK. At 17 you should be strong enough to stand your ground in terms of what you want to do. You will be faced with decisions all your life, some of them harder than this one. Go. Have fun. Party hard, but without the drugs and alcohol. And who knows, you just might have a real blast!
2007-07-08 14:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by Guy E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always believe honesty is best.. Just tell your friends you are not comfortable w/drinking and doing drugs, This is a choice you have made... and may I say way to go , shows me there is some really mature young adults still.... Also let your parents know why you decided not to go ... Your friends are young adults and not making good choices and it could be a dangerous situation for them.. But your parents can make a decision on what to do if anything , but they will be proud of you.... Good Luck...
2007-07-08 09:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Martha W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a family member coming to visit is the most acceptable excuse to anyone. But i think it would be better to tell them straight out that what they are bringing is the contributing factor to you not wanting to go. They can either accept your independent decision or get upset. In the long run you can make tons of friends, but if your dead you can't.
2007-07-05 20:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sei-Chan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable telling your Friends why you do not want to go, then just lie. Tell them that your parents will not let you go.
The most important thing is that you don't go. Let them think you got into some sort of trouble with your parents and that they refuse to consider letting you go now.
2007-06-30 16:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either tell them now that you would be uncomfortable since you don't drink or use drugs and are too young, or wait until the last minute and cancel , saying something came up
. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
2007-07-07 06:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by jbug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could either be honest with your "friends" and tell them why you don't feel comfortable going. this would be the best way to go. you will find out who your true friends are. those that understand your feelings will still be your friends, those that disagree with how you feel probly aren't worth being friends with anyways. why waste your time with them?
but if you really feel that these are great people that you plan on being friends with then just tell them you don't feel well or it's your time of the month and you think you'd be a downer for the trip. there's plenty of excuses to use. i really think you should ask yourself if it's worth it to be friends with people that are abusing drugs and alcohol to the point that you don't wanna hang out with them. be smart!!!!
2007-06-30 16:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the bigger person and tell them that is the reason. you would feel better standing up for your beliefs in the end. trust me. you don't want to be where you're uncomfortable the whole time. you will, of course, become known as a goody-goody, but you won't be invited to places and events that make you uncomfortable. it's better in the end. keeps you out of trouble. I mean, if you get invited to a party where you didn't know there would be drugs and underage drinking, and the party got busted, you would go down too. would you rather that or stand up for your beliefs and get left out of environments where you could go to jail?
2007-07-08 16:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i would tell them why you don't want to go, and if you fear they wont be your friend anymore for this then they aren't very good friends.
but here is one i could see myself using... tell them your grounding for a week and your parents arent allowing you to go on the trip either... (also tell your parents what you told your friends in case your parents pick up the phone).
reasons why you were grounded... you took the car with out asking
came home late
broke something valuable (saying you did it on purpose makes it sound better)
well anyway be creative i am sure you will think of something to tell them!
good luck
2007-07-07 09:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by hellogoodbye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that your parents want let you go.Then get some new friends.Tell your parents what is going on.They will be so proud of you for coming to them and being honest,and being adult enought to know that alcohol and drugs and teens (or any age) is just asking for trouble.Backing out on your own is being so adult.Good for you.
2007-07-08 10:09:38 · answer #11 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋