Help my life is falling Apart?

Question

Im in a relationship or what ever you call it getting no where fast her father pays the rent I spend every dollar I make try to keep her happy she has no job were always broke she is 29 going on 17, says she loves me one day and hates the next says were really not compatable, but we do alot have fun sometimes but when she drinks shes a different person she drinks every day blames it on me treat me like shi# loves me in the moring and says what she wants out her mouth to me. I'm in love or just stuck with no were to go except out of town at my cousins house I have kids in this state, i love being a father I just wanted something to work feel like a jerk scared to be alone its easy to say go the hard part is doing it how can i leave or should i.................

Answer 1

Hi! pray, prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives.....Jesus loves you

Answer 2

1. Your salary most likely hasn't been raised because the Western world came close to the brink of economic meltdown a few months ago and it's still anemic. 2. If the money from your job is "somehow good," you should be able to get a car. With the big car companies folding and liquidating assets, there isn't going to be a better time to buy a car for decades to come. 3. To get friends, you need to find a community of which you can be a contributing member. Whether it be your career, volunteer work, an online forum that does activities in real life, anything. Take up a sport, join a paintball team, contribute some of your time to the Big Brothers/Big Sisters movement, ANYTHING that gets you out of the house and interacting with people on an informal level. I know things can seem overwhelming. The whole world can appear to be coming apart at the seams, with nothing you can do about it. I assure you, this is NOT the case. You've just lost a sense of direction, a sense of pride. You've stopped being proud of what you've accomplished, who you are, what you do, and this needs to be corrected because it poisons your sense of self-worth and casts a shadow over everything you do, say, and think. Sit back, reexamine your goals, and decide what's important. Lying to yourself about what you want is the worst thing you can do right now. If you want friends, go get them! If you want a career you can be proud of, earn it! All work is creative work when done by a thinking mind. The life you want is there, all that remains is for you to make it!

Answer 3

Well i am alone now but i will tell you like this- is the love you are sharing worth going through hell for??? Yes you may be alone for a while and pay child support for a while yet-- It is not easy to be alone I am but i would rather be alone then in an unhappy relationship. You are being torn apart and need to try to think about finding some type of solution-i hope she is not the mother of your kids. Relationship-not marriage then get out of it now! You need a little happiness.. Don't be afraid of stepping out the door and slamming it shut.

Answer 4

Well , there's not much anyone can do to help u in this matter...I mean u know ur problem and u know the solution as well , the only thing u lock of is execution , u gotta bite the bullet if u really wants to get out of it. Remember if u always do wht u always done u always going to get wht u always had. u cant expect the outcome to be different while doing same staff.

Answer 5

You are a grown man. Stand up for yourself and get control of this situation. It is more than obvious that this relationship is not healthy. The best thing for you to do, is to give yourself and her space to figure out what you really want. The fact that you have kids and and don't have another place to stay is a little scary. You need to do whats best for you and your children. Take responsibility and stop holding on to something that is so toxic.

Answer 6

You need to first try to discuss her drinking problem with her and see if you can get her into AA or another program. If she refuses, then you need to leave. Go and get an apartment. Being along is a GOOD thing. You have children, so you won't be lonely, and you might find that leaning on yourself will give you strength you never knew you had.

Answer 7

You are certainly in an Unhealthy relationship and never gonna be happy with things the way they are. If shes not willing to Change then you have do the changing, and start with a new address..

Answer 8

Wow. It's crappy to feel trapped. Have you tried to sit down and talk quietly and seriously with her? Communication is very important.
It sounds like both of you have quite a bit of growing up to do. Hopefully you won't make too many life altering mistakes before you do.
Before you make choices in your life it's really a good thing to think about who is affected and how they are affected by your choices.

Answer 9

You need to get out of this or stay and be abused. She is a drinker,does not want to work lets you and her dad pay the bills. Does not take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. There is someone out there for you.

Answer 10

Misery loves company, Sound like you need to have sit down talk with yourself. Is this how i want to spend my life.
Being with someone an being alone is worse than being alone. Best of luck.

Answer 11

If you lose the girl, you would find yourself....And, when you find yourself, you will be able to be the dad you need to be. Being in an unhappy relationship is miserable and you should want more out of life than that.